This is a set of features, principles, features and abilities that determine the level of usefulness of the system and the success of its interaction in various areas.
They are part of a person's character, a certain subset of features that allow them to most effectively respond to certain influences, act and successfully achieve goals in a particular subject area. More details about the character and features are written in the method Definition of character and temperament.
The presence of certain personal qualities is the most important sign of success, and their development is the main way to improve it. Let us consider in more detail the main qualities of a successful person and the methods of their development.
Intelligence
This is a complex model of system behavior that uses consciousness, preconsciousness and subconsciousness to organize, manage, control and plan activities, store and use perceived and synthesized information in memory, personal development and realization of destiny, limited by conscience.
Allows you to identify actions and resources based on personal experience and generated ideas and combine them into a plan to achieve goals.
With a low level of intelligence development, a person is not able to engage in useful activities, cannot organize, control and manage it. He is also unable to consciously set goals, draw up a plan to achieve them, overcome obstacles and act in their direction.
With a high level of intelligence development, a person completely controls his life, determines the optimal ways of development and achievement of goals, realizes himself, engages in creativity and continuously self-realizes.
Increases success by identifying the best way to achieve goals and best ways overcoming obstacles.
It develops through the accumulation of experience and the improvement of such abilities as self-awareness, goal setting, planning, imagination, etc.
This quality is discussed in more detail in the Generation of useful ideas and method.
self-discipline
It is the ability to start and complete actions, get expected results and achieve goals regardless of the obstacles that arise.
Obstacles can be problems, needs, harmful influences, laziness, fear, lack of motive or incentive, and so on. Moreover, the vast majority of them are internal.
It requires the presence of will in order to start acting, perseverance to bring things to the end and determination to focus only on things that bring you closer to the goal.
Will
It is the ability to consciously initiate, manage, and organize actions to achieve goals.
It manifests itself at the beginning of the implementation of actions to overcome inertia and when obstacles arise.
It allows you to become independent of the opinions and manipulation of other people, and act only on the basis of personal decisions, i.e. get rid of reactivity in interaction and become more proactive.
The speed of making and implementing decisions depends on willpower, which is influenced by self-discipline, independence, determination, self-confidence and courage. The better these qualities are developed, the greater the willpower.
With a low level of development of the will, a person does not begin to act independently, but only reacts to external influences. Cannot overcome obstacles, but simply stops reaching the goal or switches to another goal.
With a high level of development of the will, a person acts only on the basis of personal experience and goals. He immediately begins to act when a decision is made to achieve a goal or when obstacles appear on the way to it.
Increases success by overcoming more and more difficult obstacles, doing more and more difficult tasks and achieving more and more useful goals.
It develops similarly to self-discipline - with the help of a progressive complication of the actions performed and the goals achieved.
perseverance
This is the ability to continue and complete the implementation of the initiated actions to achieve the goal, regardless of the obstacles that arise.
Often used in defeat, when you need to "get back on your feet" and continue to move towards the goal.
Perseverance, getting things done, and successfully achieving goals increases motivation and self-confidence.
With low perseverance, a person completes few things, and only those in which there were no obstacles. If at least something interferes, then the person will immediately refuse to perform it or switch to another matter.
With high perseverance, a person completes all things, receives required results and overcomes with the help of the will any obstacles on the way to the goal.
Increases success by completing all planned tasks, obtaining expected results and achieving all set goals.
It also develops with the help of step-by-step complication of the actions performed and the goals achieved.
purposefulness
This is the ability to concentrate only on achieving the current goal, not being distracted by unimportant things, not succumbing to laziness and spontaneous desires.
With low purposefulness, a person is often distracted from the current business and goals, begins to do other things that are not related to the current goal. This significantly increases the time and cost to achieve the goal.
With a high sense of purpose, a person performs only those things that bring them closer to the goal, and spends personal resources only on such things.
Increases success by setting and successfully achieving increasingly complex goals, concentrating only on the most important ones, and minimizing the cost and time of things that are not related to the goal - time wasters.
It develops with the help of conscious concentration on the planned business and a gradual increase in the duration of this concentration. For example, at first you can concentrate only on the current business for 10 minutes, then 15, 20, 25 ... And then an effective break is taken for 5-10 minutes for a quick recovery.
At the same time, it is important to find the optimal balance between concentration in action and rest in order to maintain maximum efficiency, do not overwork and do not burn out.
Intensity
This is the ability for certain period focus on one goal and make every effort to achieve it as soon as possible.
Allows you to speed up the process of achieving the goal, but requires more resources per unit of time, which is usually a justified measure for faster results.
Prevents activities in a relaxed, calm state, for the sake of enjoying the process, which significantly slows down the achievement of goals and increases costs.
At low intensity, a person can act very slowly, take frequent breaks, waste resources without benefit for current goals, which worsens the condition and significantly increases the time to achieve the goal.
At high intensity, a person performs actions at the maximum speed for himself and with the optimal expenditure of personal resources. Makes a minimum of breaks only for rest and recuperation, and is not distracted by other, useless things.
Increases success by achieving goals faster, albeit at a higher but recouped cost.
It develops with the help of a progressive increase in the period of concentration and the maximum application of efforts on one goal.
Confidence
This is the state of the system in which it has knowledge about its own response and the reaction of another system when a certain impact is exerted.
Appears during development and awareness as a result of obtaining true knowledge about oneself, one's actions and their consequences. Minimizes uncertainty, stress, fears and risks.
Needed to understand the results that will be obtained by performing certain actions and influencing oneself or environment. Helps to take the first step towards the goal, reduces the risk harmful effects and consequences that may worsen the condition.
Self-confidence manifests itself in speech, appearance, clothing, gait, physical condition.
With low confidence, a person may spend a lot of time determining the safe and beneficial impact they can have on themselves or other systems in order to achieve a particular goal. At the same time, there is a high probability of harm, which can worsen the state and relations with other systems.
With high confidence, a person can quickly determine the necessary impact, which is guaranteed to lead to the desired consequences and give the expected results. At the same time, the risk of harm and deterioration of relations will be minimal.
Increases success by determining exactly which influences will be beneficial and which will be harmful, which helps the will to take the first step towards the goal, which is often the most difficult, because. you need to overcome your inertia and internal obstacles.
It develops with the help of awareness of oneself and the environment, one's abilities, a positive attitude towards oneself, the belief that when performing right action you will definitely succeed.
organization
It is the ability to streamline personal activities and determine the importance of goals and activities to increase the likelihood of success and minimize costs.
Appears when a large number disordered, chaotic tasks, the execution of which may be inefficient due to the waste of resources on less important things. Such cases are described in detail, the connections between them are determined, their importance and usefulness for self-realization and achievement of the goal of life are determined.
The main means for the organization are planning and systematization of its activities. To do this, you can use various systems of lists, folders, categories, etc. You can also delegate the execution of important tasks to more competent specialists. More tools for organizing are described in the method Organization of personal goals and affairs. You can also start using a powerful, free online organizer right now.
With low organization, a person has many things to do, the usefulness and dependence of which is unknown to him. He makes decisions chaotically, usually depending on his mood and desire to do the most interesting, but not necessarily useful thing.
When a person is highly organized, all important goals and affairs are described in detail, structured and organized in single system. With its help, he can quickly find necessary information and make the right decisions based on current conditions and available resources. But this system requires spending additional resources to create it and update the information in it.
Increases success by having a clear idea of what needs to be done to achieve the goal, and quickly obtaining the necessary information to make decisions and take actions.
It develops with the help of a progressive complication of the system of organizing activities for self-realization and continuous updating of information in it. This is facilitated by the development of purposefulness and self-discipline.
Courage
This is the ability to maintain the current state or improve it when danger or fear arises that impedes the implementation of actions and the achievement of the set goal.
Fear is a good helper for determining the correctness of the decision being made. The more a person is afraid to do something and it definitely will not bring harm, the more useful this thing is for his self-realization. Then you need to courageously take the first step, which is usually the most difficult, and then everything will go like clockwork.
With low courage, a person can completely stop acting when fear arises, even if its cause does not cause harm. At the same time, he can switch to other, less useful goals, abandoning those that cause fear, but can bring more benefits (organize a company, take more high position, build a house, etc.)
With high courage, a person overcomes any fear, and when it arises, he begins and completes all things to achieve the goal. At the same time, the stronger the fear, the more energy it gives to perform actions.
Increases success by overcoming the increasingly strong fears that arise when achieving increasingly complex, great and rewarding goals.
It develops with the help of awareness of the sources of fear, determination of their harmfulness, ways to minimize it and a step-by-step increase in the complexity of the actions performed and the goals achieved that cause fear.
Problem solving
This is the ability to acquire the missing resources to perform certain actions and overcome obstacles to achieve goals.
Imagination
This is the ability to create mental images in the mind regardless of the environment, combine them with real objects, simulate their interaction and determine the possible consequences.
It is used to generate original ideas that can be implemented in the form of material (new house, car, tool...) or ideal (knowledge, theories, processes, methods...) objects.
Used by the system creative activity to create new, unique objects used by itself or the environment and improving the state of the system, environment or supersystem.
With a low imagination, a person uses only the information that he perceived from the outside: he saw, heard, tried. This allows you to use only what already exists in your activity.
With high imagination, a person continuously forms mental images of new and existing systems, connects them together, models their interaction and evaluates the usefulness of the consequences of this. If the image is evaluated as useful, then a person can implement it in real world by creating something new, improving an existing one, or destroying something harmful.
Increases success by identifying new possible states, original ways to achieve goals and overcome obstacles.
Develops through the accumulation of knowledge about existing systems, paradigm expansion and progressive complication of the formed mental images of real and possible systems.
Generation of ideas
This is the ability to use the imagination to form new ideas based on personal experience and existing ideas.
With a low ability to generate ideas, a person uses only patterns and proven methods to achieve goals. Can use technologies that someone invented, but adapt them poorly to their activities, so they are of little use.
With a high ability to generate ideas, a person easily invents and implements new, unique objects, invents new tools and methods. He develops new and improves existing technologies and implements them in his activities, which allows him to achieve personal goals more successfully and more efficiently.
Increases success by identifying original paths to goals, using new technologies and creating unique objects that can give an advantage or be used as personal resources.
Develops through the accumulation of experience, the continuous search for more appropriate ways to perform actions and achieve goals, the development and implementation of more complex and useful technologies, tools and methods. This improves the imagination.
Creativity
This is a set of system abilities that allow generating fundamentally new, original ideas and use previously unused means to overcome obstacles and achieve goals.
Allows you to find original tools to perform certain actions that no one has tried to use yet.
It can lead to both a decrease and an increase in the cost of achieving the goal, but, as a rule, the speed of performing actions increases significantly when using the original tool.
It is the main means for creative activity, creating something new, unique and improving the environment.
With low creativity, a person can only perform actions based on known solutions, use only proven technologies, and never apply something new.
With high creativity, a person tries for each new business, new goal to find a more suitable path than the one that is known. He generates many ideas for determining the best ways to succeed. We are constantly looking for, creating and implementing new technologies in our activities.
Increases success by creating new, unique systems that can provide benefits, achieving goals in an original, unconventional way, which can be less costly and faster than known ones.
It develops with the help of a constant search for new ways and means of performing actions and a progressive complication of goals achieved in an original way, and not a template one. This is facilitated by an improvement in imagination and the ability to generate ideas.
self-awareness
This is the ability to analyze and evaluate your current state, thought processes in the mind and.
Allows you to compare the current state with the desired one, determine the difference and, using intelligence, determine the actions to move into it.
It also helps to identify internal motives that give energy to start and complete actions.
With low self-awareness, a person uses only external information to make a decision. He is very susceptible to the opinions of other people, does not take into account his thoughts and emotions.
With high self-awareness, a person makes decisions only on the basis of personal thoughts,. He clearly imagines what he wants, what goal to achieve and easily determines what he lacks for this.
Increases success by determining the difference between the current and target states, using internal motives, thoughts and emotions.
It develops with the help of periodic concentration on thoughts and emotions, determining their essence, causes and consequences, and progressive complication of the goals achieved, which are increasingly different from the current state.
These are the most significant qualities of a successful person, the development of which allows you to successfully achieve any goals.
And many of the qualities connected to each other and the development of some improves others. For example, will, perseverance, and determination improve self-discipline, while courage and confidence improve determination.
The development of these qualities and skills allows you to subconsciously, automatically interact, quickly and adequately respond to external influences and adjust your activities depending on new opportunities.
Let us consider in more detail how any of the qualities can be developed so that it influences life as much as possible and helps to achieve success.
Method of development of personal qualities
For successful self-realization, you need enough high level development of personal qualities. You can improve several qualities at the same time. It is better to choose those qualities that are most useful for achieving current goals, and concentrate just to improve them.
All these qualities are innate - every person has them. But initially they are passive state and practically do not affect the activity. In order for them to be more useful in achieving goals, they need to be continuously developed.
The main thing in the development of qualities is the understanding that they cannot improve instantly. They should be developed progressively and regularly depending on current goals. And when development stops, they will deteriorate, degrade.
The improvement of any quality is based on a gradual, step-by-step complication of the actions that are performed with its application. The following method can be used to develop qualities:
1. Need choose quality and to know about it, as much as possible, so that a clear understanding of it appears: its definition, how it manifests itself, what happens to the state, how you react to external influences, how you influence the environment, etc. To do this, you can use their description in this chapter and search for Additional information in the Internet.
For example, intensity is the ability to concentrate on a specific goal and make every effort to achieve it as soon as possible. Allows you to speed up the process of achieving the goal, but it is more expensive, which is usually a justified measure for faster results. Prevents doing activities in a relaxed state, for the sake of enjoying the process, which significantly slows down the achievement of goals and increases costs.
2. Describe ideal level development of this quality by 10 points out of 10: what can this quality be for me personally, what will my behavior be like, in what situations can it be used ...
For example, apply when performing any business. Act as quickly as possible, do not be distracted by extraneous matters. Have a supportive environment. Take some time to analyze cases, find out if it will help achieve the goal. If there is an intention to fulfill it, then resolutely proceed to it. Set deadlines for doing things. Determine in advance the reward for its completion on time.
3. Determine current level development of this quality on a scale from 1 to 10. To do this, just ask yourself: “How satisfied am I with this quality in myself on a scale from 1 to 10” and listen to the emotions that arise, they will prompt a subjective, but the most accurate answer.
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4. Describe a few simple steps , actions that can be performed to develop this quality by 1 point. Describe what exactly can be done, in what situations, what to use for this, etc., so that the quality improves a little. It suffices to rely on personal experience and his idea of this quality in an ideal form.
For example, before starting a task, determine its term and reward. Organize a supportive environment so that nothing gets in the way of doing it.
5. Then describe the steps to improve the quality by another 1 point, and another 1, and another ... And so to reach such steps that will improve the quality to 10 points out of 10, i.e. to the ideal level.
For example, to perform actual actions with maximum speed(walk fast, type fast, talk fast, etc.). Spend some time analyzing the case, answering the question “Why do it?”. Immediately do the things that are necessary to achieve the goals and that you yourself want to do. Delegate necessary things, but which you do not want to perform. Act decisively so as not to miss opportunities.
6. Select the steps from which you can begin quality development soon and start to follow these steps.
For example, setting deadlines and rewards, organizing a supportive environment, and not being distracted by extraneous matters.
7. Periodically repeat this method and update your answers.
This method should be done for each quality that is useful to develop in the near future for current purposes. You can make a list of qualities, draw a scale next to it and mark the current level of this quality on it. For example, like this:
Periodically, for example, once a week, you can update this list, note the current level of development and analyze the dynamics of changes. You can choose the quality that has become the highest priority and perform those actions that will help improve it.
This will help determine which qualities are currently lacking or which need to be improved to achieve current goals.
You can hang this list in several prominent places, regularly look through it, remember those steps that it was decided to take first to improve them and perform them under suitable conditions.
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We are tired of repeating that you owe nothing to anyone. But once again think about the fact that maybe making commitments is not so bad? Imagine that you have obligations not only to your loved ones, but also to yourself and, more importantly, to the whole world. You can renounce these obligations, but then no one will shed tears at your funeral, then your life will lose its meaning, or its meaning will be so narrow that it can easily crawl through the keyhole of a dusty box. It seems to us that you do not want this - you want to become that person who will not regret the days lived. Such people are a rarity in a society where "no one owes anything to anyone", but such people are People with a capital letter. We admire them, the planet rests on them, thanks to them humanity has still retained its dignity. How to become such a person? No one knows this, but BroDude decided to take charge and write some tips to help you get better.
Learn to read books
Looking at words, letters, and sentences and reading are not the same thing, even if you look at the words in sequence and turn the pages. Real reading may not be quick, but it should be meaningful. Therefore, we are convinced that a meaningfully read book by some popular Michel Houellebecq is better than a superficially read Dostoyevsky and Tolstoy. Learn to turn on your brains when you read anything, otherwise you are just masturbating without the ability to finish. Do not be afraid to make notes with a pencil on the pages or write down the message of the text in a notebook or on your phone - isolate important thoughts and drive them into your head, learn to remember and understand what you read. Reading is harder than it looks, but true reading is never useless.
Take care of your body
Your body should always be in good shape, but you should not become a narcissistic cretin who only thinks that "you need to pump up, you need to, you need to pump up." Physical education is designed to keep your body functioning at full capacity, but not to make you a monster or become the center of your life. Don't be the guy who gets turned on by his reflection in the mirror. Your body is a tool that will help you interact more effectively with the world around you, so try to get regular exercise, but don't give it your all.
Start a social project
We think you're old enough to work. And you do it - you go to the office every weekday, develop your skills, try to get a promotion and knock out a bonus for yourself so that you can go on vacation to India or China. You are a good man that you care so much about your own benefit, but is the value of a person determined by his selfish motives? We think that value is determined by the contribution to society that he makes voluntarily, without thinking about material gain.
This is what is called civic engagement, and it can be anything. You can start raising money for the restoration of the imperial monument, you can open a shelter for the homeless, or you can start monitoring corruption in local authorities. If you're a wild nature and want to keep the planet green, then set up a civic committee to take care of park areas in the city. If you want to preserve the historical heritage of the region, then become the founder of a historical society that will fight for this very heritage. There are many people who do this, but now there are still not enough of them to make the country a better one. Stop waiting for the power to change - it can be tolerated for the next hundred years. Instead, find a problem that you can solve and tackle it - do something useful not only for yourself, but also for society. It may not deserve it, but that shouldn't stop you.
See the world from different perspectives
Many men are proud of the fact that they have a tough and unchanging position about everything throughout their lives. They think that it is a big plus when a person does not change his views. But we have a different opinion - views should change, this speaks of the development of the world outlook. If your views do not change, it only means that you are standing in one place. It prevents you from seeing the world in full colors.
If you have noticed the conservation of thought behind you, then it is time to expand your consciousness by going beyond the limits of your ideology. Start looking at the world from different angles, combining the incompatible. For example, if you have a problem in front of you, then look at it from the position of an evolutionary scientist, and then try to try on the mask of a Christian or a person completely far from religion. When you look at the world through the eyes of different ideologies, you will see a great variety of solutions. It's always handy when we are talking about ethical issues or serious life choices. In addition, you will learn to understand people of opposing views - this is a useful quality in a world that is like a melting pot.
Learn to negotiate
Many of us are introverts, but this does not make us people who will do anything to protect themselves from society. We understand that the people around us can make us stronger, better and more successful. But if you do not learn how to interact with them, negotiate, find common ground, then it will be difficult for you to do anything at all on this planet. One cannot survive in this world - you need to be able to create horizontal connections around yourself, in this way you can become an influential person.
A person who knows lawyers, policemen, judges, security guards, officials, prosecutors and business owners can do much more than a person who has only childhood friends. Communicate, create a horizontal connection, the center of which will be yourself - if you do everything right, then you will automatically begin to improve both socially and personally.
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Many people believe that personality traits are something we are born with. Someone was already born with a sense of humor, and someone was just lucky to grow up as a charismatic person. Therefore, we often do not even think about embarking on the path of self-development. Of course, something is given to us easier and easier, but we have to constantly work and train on something. However, in reality, there is no such positive personality trait that you could not develop in yourself in order to become even more attractive and successful.
We are in website collected exactly those character traits that you can develop in yourself for a successful and happy life.
Self confidence
Self-confident people always have an advantage over doubters, because it is strong personalities that inspire others and control the course of events. According to a study, confident people earn more and move up the career ladder faster.
Go in for sports: a sense of composure and a sense of control over the body gives stability both physically and emotionally. Stop treating other people's reactions to your actions as rules to be followed. Don't look for outside approval. A confident person manages his own life, bearing responsibility for his actions.
The ability to say "no"
Everything you need for effective work, is concentration. Turn off messengers, phone sound, do not listen to music if it distracts you. Immerse yourself completely in the task that needs to be done. Just as appetite comes with eating, inspiration comes with work. When you're constantly twitching, it's hard for your brain to readjust back. And what is given to the brain with difficulty, we consider unpleasant. Therefore, motivation is reduced.
In addition, you need to adjust the daily routine: sleep and eat enough so that it does not interfere with work.
The ability to read other people
Many people are sure that the ability to read minds is in the category of superpowers and for this you need to be a psychic, but this is not at all the case. It is enough just to listen to what they say, and not think more. Do not think for a person, do not conduct mental dialogues with him.
You communicate, for example, with a person for some time. And then he abruptly disappears, and you are perplexed: how did this happen? After all, everything was fine. And then it turns out that nothing was normal. You wanted to meet, and he fed you "breakfasts", ardently promising to see you next time. No matter how good the reasons are, those who want to meet will always find time. Empty promises are nothing more than a courtesy.
Did a person confess his feelings to you and for you it became like a bolt from the blue? Because before that you did not pay attention to the fact that he singled you out from everyone else, often wrote, asked how you were doing, took the initiative.
To guess the motives of other people, to understand the reasons for their behavior, it is enough just to pay attention to what they say and what they do, where they look and who they smile at. Compare these things and draw conclusions. Of course, you do not need to do this all your free time.
Ability to attract people
Some people are so charming that everyone seems to like them. These people have charisma - a quality that anyone can develop.
When communicating, try to establish eye contact: look at the interlocutor with a relaxed and calm look, smile. Charismatic people know how to listen to the interlocutor and be on the same wavelength with him. Therefore, do not rush to spread information about yourself, it is better to ask him questions. Do not suppress your emotions if you were told something offensive - show that you do not like it. But only not with a boring lecture, but with the termination of the conversation. Absent to a bar or to the toilet, or simply change the topic.
Respond to frankness with frankness, if you like. After all, a person has opened up to you, open up to you.
The ability to control your body's reactions
More simple reactions like irritation, rudeness or raising your voice can be even more stopped by simply pulling yourself together in time.
Everyone wants to become at least a little happier, but few people understand that happiness in this world depends on having good qualities character.
This is easy to understand if we analyze the causes of happiness, and as a result of the analysis it turns out that the source of the greatest happiness is a good relationship. The man is an integral part of society (with rare exceptions, of course), because every day we have to deal with other people, communicate, and jointly solve issues and problems.
Possessing good qualities, we thereby make better life other people, for which, in gratitude, they do better than ours own life adding to our happiness in one way or another.
Perhaps it is easier to understand in relation to other people. Imagine two people: one is very good, the other is very bad. Which one do you want to do business with? With whom are you ready to communicate and be friends more? Which of them are you ready to help if he asks? Of course you choose good man, and your feelings towards him will be sincere. Thus, you will automatically be a source of happiness for him. And he is for you too, because there is an exchange.
Based on this, we can conclude: TO BE A GOOD PERSON IS PROFITABLE! Because by showing good qualities of character, we attract good people into our lives and become happier.
What qualities of character do you need to develop in yourself?
There are 26 qualities that are worth developing in yourself, they are described in detail by Torsunov in lectures, their explanations can also be found in text form on the Internet. These are the 26 qualities of a saintly person.
simplicity
gentleness (kindness)
composure
non-violence
forgiveness
humility
tranquility (peace)
compassion for all
fearlessness
charity
truthfulness
lack of anger
self-denial
asceticism - performing austerities
lack of desire to look for faults in others
purity of consciousness
unselfishness, lack of greed
lack of envy
determination
purposefulness
stamina
purity
scriptural study
development of spiritual knowledge
making sacrifices
modesty - lack of desire for honors
We can start by developing a few qualities that are understandable and acceptable to us. this stage spiritual growth.
How to develop good qualities in yourself?
The secret is simple: you need to communicate with those who have these qualities. What kind of person you lead, those qualities of character and you will type. This happens automatically, by itself, without any special efforts, and even without our desire.
Communicating with a kind person, we are "charged" (or infected) with kindness, and then for some time we radiate kindness towards others, which, of course, does not go unnoticed, because there is a law "what you radiate is what you get."
One should try to notice good qualities in people, note them mentally for oneself, concentrate on them, instead of concentrating on bad qualities.
We get more into our lives than we focus on. Parents know that if a child is constantly scolded for his bad qualities of character, they only increase. And vice versa: if you praise for good qualities and encourage them in every possible way (within reasonable limits), they appear more and more. And the children become happier, and the parents win everything.
Communicating with people, you can express your admiration for their good qualities, thereby adopting them - and these qualities will develop in ourselves.
When discussing people, it is better to discuss their good qualities, good deeds, and not what we are used to discussing.
Therefore, let's remember the secret: "What we feed with our attention is what we get."
Gradually developing good qualities of character in ourselves, we become happier, because we bring more positive into our lives, which “pushes out” the negative.
Various ones can also help well - they will eliminate the accumulated negativity and misunderstanding of life or its individual aspects.
How to ruin everything
The development of good qualities in oneself can be spoiled by communicating with bad people, discussing them with others, obsessing over someone's bad qualities, watching TV shows that carry negativity and focus the viewer's attention on the bad that is in our world.
It is necessary to filter what enters our field of vision, into our mind, into our consciousness, because what enters it then "sprouts" in our life. And it grows solely due to the fact that we pay attention to it.
Knowing this, we can make our lives happier - day by day.
This principle of acquiring good qualities is well known and applied in Hinduism and other religions: spiritual practice involves hearing (from spiritual teachers) about the pastimes, qualities and activities of God, and those who listen to these narrations gain spiritual benefit.
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How to become a successful person in life?
The author of the book Richard John himself is a good example of how an ordinary guy independently achieved success in life. He created the St. John Group, which allowed him to earn millions of dollars, won the highest awards in his field, received a black belt in judo, and also made many climbs on highest mountains peace.
The writing of the book itself began one day on an airplane, when Richard was flying to a TED conference. Next to him was a schoolgirl from a poor family. She looked at him for a long time and asked one simple question: “Are you a successful person?”. At this time, Richard felt embarrassed, because he could not really answer her anything. This girl deprived him of rest for as much as 10 years.
Arriving at the conference, Richard realized that he was surrounded by successful people everywhere. So why not ask them what helped them achieve success, and then tell the whole world about it. And then the real work began, as a result of which he interviewed more than 500 successful people, including Richard Branson (Richard Branson), Bill Gates (Bill Gates), the founders of Google and others.
To understand what is still common between successful people, I interviewed representatives of different professions. From A to Z. In the list under the letter “a”, among others, there were, for example, actors, astronauts, astrophysicists, athletes, architects, authors, and so on. I spoke to more than one representative of each profession. Let's say he interviewed five astronauts and six world-renowned architects. I also made it a rule to interview both very famous and completely unknown people. Among the first were corporate presidents, billionaires and celebrities. And among the second - people who are not talked about much, but who calmly and confidently change the world for the better. It can be the winners of the Paralympic Games or the "Best Parent of the Year" competition. In the control group, I included those who did not achieve much success in life at all.
In addition, St. John began to analyze other people's interviews published on the Internet and in social networks, books, newspapers, as well as on radio and television. As a result, useful content was outlined and put into a database that, according to Richard, "has grown to millions of words." Then, for several years, Richard analyzed all the data, highlighting the factors that ensure success.
The result was 8 qualities that a person needs to successful life. And most importantly, they are not congenital. All successful people have developed them in the course of their activities. Therefore, everyone can become a successful person. The whole secret of success lies precisely in the development of these qualities! And how to do this, Richard St. John tells in his book The Big Eight.
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8 basic qualities of a successful person
1. Passion: Successful people love what they do.
2 Hardworking: They work very hard.
3 Concentration: They focus on one thing, not everything.
4. Ability to overcome themselves: they force themselves to act.
5. Creativity: They come up with new ideas.
6. Self-improvement: They are always improving themselves and their work.
7. Ability to serve people: they offer quality services.
8. Perseverance: They move towards the goal, regardless of the cost of time, setbacks and vicissitudes of fate.
PASSION
The first and most important quality of all successful people is love for their work. Yes, all qualities are important, but PASSION should be at the top of the list. Many people who grew up in poverty say that it was passion that helped them reach unprecedented heights. It's amazing how much we can achieve if we love what we do! It can be unequivocally said that passion is the key to success.
The only way to true satisfaction is through work that you consider outstanding. And the only way to make your work stand out is through your love for what you do.
Steve Jobs, CEO Apple
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START DEVELOPINGBut the main problem here is to find this very passion. In this case, all people can be divided into two types: struggling and seeking. The first understood their purpose, do what they like and fight to achieve their goal. The latter do not have a clear idea about their passion and must find it as soon as possible. If you, like me, are already struggling, then congratulations. And if you are still a seeker, then know that you are not alone!
HARD WORK
The second quality that will help you become a successful person in life is hard work. Indeed, labor is a kind of payment for entering the territory of success. All successful people, regardless of the field of activity, work hard for many hours a day. And they think a lot about their work, even without being on it. And all just because it is not forced work, but an activity for pleasure.
Nine years in a row I played for fun. And we have won many championships.
Michael Jordan, basketball superstar
But let's look at things realistically. Do hard workers always enjoy their work? Of course not. There are things that do not bring great joy, but that you have to do. The task is to maintain the Pareto law: 80% to enjoy, and the remaining 20% to do what cannot be called pleasure. If the ratio is different, then you are clearly not doing your job.
CONCENTRATION
The third personal quality of successful people is the ability to focus. Deep mastery of any profession to the level of a master implies that you cannot do this for a week and then take on another. Succeeding in anything, whether it's a career, a project, or a single goal, means focusing on it for months, years, or even decades.
I followed my dream and was always focused on it. I never gave up. Concentrate.
Peter Marks, famous pop musician
During the day you are visited by about 60,000 different thoughts. But you can't succeed in everything. Sometimes it is difficult to achieve something significant even in one case. That is why it is so important to develop concentration in yourself. And you can do this thanks to 2 things: purposefulness and getting rid of distractions. Therefore, many successful people left the hustle and bustle so that no one bothered them.
ABILITY TO OVERCOME YOURSELF
The fourth personal quality to become successful is the ability to force yourself to do something necessary. The ability to overcome oneself helps to get through difficult times and do things that we would like to avoid. Successful people are able to overcome shyness, doubt, and even fear. They transcend boundaries. They transcend conventions. They go beyond expectations. And they force themselves to do what life demands of them.
Force yourself to take action. Be persistent. You can't just sit and wait for something out of life.
Leslie Westbrook, Marketing Consultant
One of our biggest internal barriers is self-doubt. So many successful people often doubt what they are doing and feel insecure about it. There will always be doubts - just listen to your inner voice. Let something not work today, but you need to continue to work. Get over yourself with interesting goals, challenging tasks, self-discipline, or a gold kick from other people.
CREATIVITY
The fifth quality of successful people is the ability to generate great IDEAS. It is a very powerful source of mental energy. The better your ideas are, the better more energy you can move forward. But the ideas themselves are not always born easily. And when that happens, we often love to shout "Eureka"! Each of us is able to give birth good ideas. Just the ability to be creative needs to be developed.
When people ask me "Where do I start own business?”, I tell them: “You must have an idea that everyone else thinks is crazy. But you still develop and implement it.”
Bill Lowe, CEO of AudioQuest
Ideas are necessary for success in any business, including business. Business is as much a creative activity as art. But for some reason, many people do not consider themselves creative just because they do not write or draw with paints. Creativity itself does not mean only artistic skills. It means the ability to generate ideas. And if it doesn’t work out, then you can borrow and improve, but just don’t steal.
ABILITY FOR SELF-IMPROVEMENT
To become a successful person, you must not stop in the process of working on yourself. The ability to constantly improve oneself is very important and there is even a term "continuous self-improvement". Successful people are constantly working on developing new qualities and skills, striving to do their job better and better. It's just an endless process.
Getting better is hard work. But you can't retreat.
Brian McLeod, blind golf champion
Continuous Improvement has three components.
1. Do FINE.
2. Do BETTER AND BETTER.
3. Strive to do something PERFECT.
ABILITY TO SERVE PEOPLE
The seventh trait that all successful people have in common is the ability to SERVE others. The word "serve" is often misunderstood. This is not service in the usual sense in a restaurant and far from charity. First of all, it is the ability to think about others, work for them, creating various knowledge, products or services. It is very important for yourself to decide who you serve and what values you give.
You can get everything you want out of life if you help other people get what they want.
Zig Ziglar, famous writer and lecturer
These days, most people prefer to serve themselves rather. Additional motives must be offered to make them want to serve others. But what? First, service can bring you something intangible like happiness or a fulfilling life. But maybe you are looking for something more specific, something that you can hold in your hands? What about a fat bag with big money? Remember that serving people is one of the ways to material wealth.
PERSISTENCE
The eighth and final quality is perseverance. Perseverance is so important that there are many other synonyms for its designation: perseverance, determination, willpower, endurance, the ability not to leave the work begun. Whatever you call it, but this quality means the ability to move towards the goal, despite failures, pain, criticism, negative attitudes, rejection and other rubbish.
My success was preceded by 10 years of twilight… I wrote from ten in the evening until three in the morning. And so 10 years.
Remember that there is no "instant success". It is a very long journey with many setbacks. There are many examples that prove the correctness of the statement: the more you fail, the closer you are to success. For example, it took Edison 10,000 tries to invent the light bulb. No one can tell how long it will take you. But obviously it's thousands of hours!
In studying the nature of success and interviewing people, I remained objective and deliberately positioned myself outside the process. But when I finally systematized the results of my work, I asked myself a very personal question. Have these 8 qualities contributed to my success? Looking back, I say yes. Others have achieved success in their own way, I in my own way, but these 8 qualities unite us all. In the end, I realized how a simple guy like me, who barely graduated from high school, can become a millionaire. I made a lot of mistakes, but these 8 basic qualities saved me. Which means they can help you.
Richard St. John, researcher on the nature of success
I think the question “How to become successful in life?” is now closed for you. It is necessary to develop these 8 basic qualities. There are, of course, others, but you should definitely start with these. And Richard's book turned out to be very clear, informative, creative and useful. I just love these! All business and without water. And if you're ever asked about your success, say that it started with one informative article on the site and a fascinating book, The Big Eight! Good luck in everything and always!
