Do you know the feeling that something is missing in life? That you are in the wrong place, busy with your own business, communicating with the wrong people? You want to live somehow completely differently, get more money, have more interesting work, meet a loved one, have children - in short, you want your life to become better. Perhaps you even tried to take some steps, but, for some reason, nothing changes. In fact, there is one secret that you need to know in order to achieve real results and truly change yourself and your life for the better.
Why hasn't anything changed over the years?
Let's imagine a certain situation. For example, you receive 20 thousand rubles, but you want to receive 120 thousand rubles. Or you live alone but want to have a family. Or you live in Russia, but would like to live abroad. You seem to be starting to take steps in the right direction, but nothing happens.
The thing is that we have a certain habitual understanding of ourselves. And it is this understanding that keeps us from changing. We have not yet entered this feeling - how it is - to be a married man or a married woman, to manage a good amount of money every month, to live in another country. Your well-established internal status does not allow a new idea to be realized.
Imagine a craftsman who works in a factory and makes three intricate parts a day. And the boss gave him a new task: to make a hundred of these parts every day. What should he do then - work on the machine several times faster? But that won't work. We need to change the technology itself. Also, in order to change your material or spiritual status, you also need to abandon your usual ideas, your old way of life - everything that does not allow you to do this. Not immediately, gradually, but still.
How to change your internal status?
How to change your life and get what you never got
There is a saying: to get what you never got, you need to do what you never did. One way to change own representation about yourself is when you allow yourself to sort of "go crazy" for the old state, reboot, switch off.
You can start by doing any act that is not typical for you. Some action that is completely unusual for your usual state and behavior.
Step 1: Do something you've never done before
You cannot get new results with old methods. You need to do something completely new. You need to learn to do things that are unusual for you, which you have never done before.
It does not have to be some outrageous or extreme act or something that scares you. Sometimes it is enough to shift the spoon from your right hand to your left or walk home instead of taking the bus.
Start with simple steps Try to get up early in the morning, before sunrise. Do a little exercise. Experiment with nutrition. Get a part-time job in an unexpected place. Enter into your life the practices that we will discuss below.
Step 2: Pump up your inner potential
To achieve any goal, you need a certain internal potential, a resource. You can't buy an apartment without money. Similarly, you can't get new status without a certain level of energy.
Imagine that you, with your current level of energy, have become the president of a huge company. Very quickly you will feel that you are not pulling, you are not coping.
In the same way, life will not give us a high external status until we pump ourselves up to a certain level of energy.
The easiest way to increase your life potential
Most simple ways increase your life potential - it's running, swimming or just long walks in the forest or park. Thus, our lower centers are filled with energy, which we further direct where we see fit.
At the same time, as in the case of spending money, you need to carefully monitor where the energy flows in vain, for example: to unnecessary, empty conversations, unnecessary emotions for trifling reasons, helping someone who is ready to sit on your neck, etc.
You can get acquainted with other techniques for unlocking your inner potential.
Step 3: show life what you want
Let's say we have a lot of energy. How can we show life what we want? There is only one way - our actions. If a person says that he wants to become a swimming champion or swim across, for example, the Bosporus, and instead he watches TV shows all day long, then it is obvious that in fact he does not want to swim at all, but to lie in front of the TV.
Therefore, inform life about your desires by your actions.
If you want to build a house, start looking for plots and shopping for building materials. If you want a child, read books or online resources for parents, buy some toys and play with them. If you want to become a very wealthy person - save up money and go once to a very expensive restaurant, without denying yourself anything, just feel the atmosphere.
Sooner or later life will give you what you want. How quickly this will happen depends on many things - from fate and karma to the level of your development. But there is one magical power that allows you to go even beyond the limits of karma.
Magic power that changes lives
It's about meditation. Meditation is what allows you to change your self-image. Because meditation allows you to go beyond your own mind.
To change the idea of yourself that lies in the mind, you need to become something other than the mind, to find a completely different system.
Step 4: Meditate
Only by plunging into the depths of the heart can we know something true. Meditation - going beyond the mind - helps us understand how the mind works. You cannot describe the work of the mind from the position of the mind, it's the same as dragging yourself out of the swamp by the hair, like Baron Munchausen. We need another point of support. And this fulcrum will be the system that lies beyond the mind. Meditation gives us such a system.
You can read more about what meditation is, but we told you what simple steps you can start with and how meditation can change your destiny.
The process of change can be called gradual death. Death means becoming who I am into who I want to sleep. It's not physical death, it's death familiar image thinking, perception. If you move from the habit of perceiving the world around you through the mind to a different way of perception - through the heart, intuition, you will experience personal death, and after a while you will change.
In this process, you may encounter certain difficulties.
How to cross the line
If people really start to practice meditation, at some point they reach the "threshold". A person feels that if he goes further, he will begin to change, and this change will be irreversible.
And it can be very scary. It's like stepping forward, not knowing if we're on solid ground or a deep abyss.
But, when you decide and take this step, you will realize that you have become as if wider, bigger. If you get used to it, after a while people will start telling you: "Something has changed in you."
It takes courage to take this step. The mind does not let you do it, because it protects itself. It seems to you that if you take this step, then you will not exist, but, in fact, only the mind will not exist, but a new point of perception will appear.
And, if you take this step, the field of possibilities in front of you will expand. Something will become more understandable, some things - unnecessary. You will begin to feel many things from the depths of your soul. You will not need to look for answers to your questions in articles or search in search engines. You will receive all the information about how to live correctly from your own soul.
Another powerful push for change
A very powerful way to quickly change your inner status, your idea of yourself and life and, accordingly, your life is a journey. But not the usual vacation trip, when you lie on the hotel beach with a glass in your hand, but a transformational journey.
Step 5: Take a trip
Go where you've never been before. It can be a mountain or horse trip or rafting. Or a journey combined with certain practices - yoga, qigong, sacred dances or any other spiritual practices. Or a pilgrimage to holy places. You can go diving or go skiing. Do something that will open you up to yourself in a new way.
It is not necessary to go on a long trip for several weeks. Sometimes it is enough to go somewhere for the weekend, for example, to a good seminar with an experienced teacher. Maybe it will be a seminar on yoga, or some other practices, or just on inner work, or even dedicated to massage. But let this be a point of contact with new energies or new people who have more high level development.
Are there limits to possibilities?
Imagine a glass lowered into the ocean. Our mind is the same glass lowered into the ocean of possibilities. This ocean is limitless, the potential of life has no limits, but the format of our mind limits our possibilities, like a glass limits the water inside. Therefore, by changing the format of the mind through meditation and spiritual practices, we can change everything else - our entire life.
If you know from your practical experience that you are not only a body, if you expand your consciousness, you will understand that the Universe has great potential. But if you know how to touch this power, but do not know how to manifest it, you will only have the potential to improve your life. Just like many people know how to work well, but can't find a good job.
You need to be able to bring these resources into your life, lower them to the manifested level of energy, and then you will have a real opportunity to change your life.
How to build a bridge between the desired and the actual
Any situation in our life is a reflection of what we have inside our consciousness and subconsciousness. If we do not understand what is happening within us, life seems unfair to us.
If we are able to build a connection between the subconscious and consciousness, between our potential, desires and the manifestation of our strength, then many problems are easily solved, and desires are fulfilled. Here another problem already arises - to learn to control our thoughts and desires so as not to get an unexpected result from a momentary desire that is far from our true goals.
It is possible to build such a bridge between the conscious and the subconscious, to learn how to receive subtle power and manifest it to the outside world with the help of special yoga practices. Real yoga, by combining movement, breathing and concentration, builds a person into a single whole, eliminating internal distortions. Yoga is one of those practices that actually seriously change lives, and change, in the end, for the better. If you are ready for this, and ready to work on yourself, then you can.
There is an expression, remember it: “When you pray, pray as if everything depends only on God. But when you act, act as if everything depends on you.”
We hope that this article has given you an understanding of how to change yourself and your life. It may not be easy, but it is always interesting. It is in your power to turn your life into an exciting adventure.
Hello, my darlings! Liudmila Redkina is in touch. In this article I want to raise a rather banal, but very useful and relevant topic. Who hasn't been disappointed in their life? Probably, this feeling is familiar to many. Once I was so disappointed in a person that I could not “get together” for a long time. Sometimes we just get upset because of something, and sometimes we worry so much that we need to fill the spiritual emptiness with new emotions, habits, people. And that's when we decide to start new life without the old that drowns us. Together with you, we will look at how to start a new life and change yourself to become a better person.
Everyone knows the hackneyed phrase: “I’ll start on Monday ...!”, “I’ll definitely be starting from the new year ...!” And each person has his own idea of what to start and why to start it. The need to become better, to be recognized and loved, everyone has to one degree or another. Each person once comes to the decision to change something in his life, because THAT is how it cannot go on.
Serious changes in our lives are coming after we have realized that we are in a dead end, whether it be a relationship with a guy, terrible working conditions, living in a hated area, constant conflicts, etc.
It is in these crisis situations (and a person goes through several such crises in his life) that there is a desire to change everything for the better, to start life from scratch.
And it's great! But where to start? How to determine what exactly needs to be removed from your life? If it is difficult to figure it out on your own, specialists are ready to help - healers of human souls. But you yourself can help yourself, you just have to listen to yourself and make a decision.
If you decide to give up something in your life forever, and acquire something, then the advice of a psychologist (I am a psychologist by training) described below will help you start the changes.
forget the past
I understand that this is easy to say. But be that as it may, the past only pulls back. There is already a sensational phrase: “The past is forgotten, the future is hidden, and the present is bestowed.” So you can’t live in a new way if you keep a bag of old problems on you.
Tune in to the best and live in the present - the most useful thing you can do for yourself on the way to a new life. For example, why don't the poor get richer even if they want to? Because they do not want to give up their habits and problems.
Faith in yourself will help you forget the past. It is important to never give up, no matter what happens in your life. There are different situations: when you were abandoned, you were left with a child in your arms after a divorce, you lost something important in your life. But life goes on, you need not remember the old, but look for a new meaning,.
Say goodbye to your habits
By throwing away the past ballast, you have freed up a niche for new thoughts and habits. At this stage, it is important to understand what in the present is preventing you from moving on. For example, I like to sleep longer in the morning, but I fall asleep late at night. But this order of affairs does not suit me, because I do not have time for a lot in a day. This habit interferes with my present, so I get rid of it.
You may have many such habits or situations. For some, this is a job that takes all the strength, someone understands that he is studying in the wrong place. Some of you will understand that a protracted, uncertain relationship with a guy or a girl is straining - you want specifics.
So, easy way to find out what is bothering you in the present is to make a list of what annoys you, strains you, and does not suit you. Honesty is important here. Write down everything that comes to mind: habits, emotional vampire friends, work, interpersonal relationships.
After that, psychology advises burning or tearing up the list, but I will take responsibility not to advise you to do this. It is better to consciously approach the matter and point out, point by point, which of them have been changed or completely eradicated. But if you have accumulated negative emotions, then you can do anything with the list to reset the negative.
On the way to the new: set goals
The beginning of a new life must be based on something. If you decide to say goodbye to some of your principles, it's time to “plant” others to replace the past.
Right now is the best time to set new goals, come up with hobbies. If you used to be afraid to stand on the roof, this is worth a try, only with insurance, of course! Think about what you would like to do, what to do. Let me remind you once again: you can quit everything, but you need to try hard to build a “new self”! Approach decisions thoughtfully.
Changing old habits
A change in habits leads to a change in one's character. This is what you need on the way to a new life. work out new habit possible at least 21 days in advance. For some, this process takes up to 60 days. But it can be done!
You know that some actions you have brought to automatism. For example, morning procedures in the bathroom, driving a car with drivers and others. You weren't born with these skills, were you?! This means that other skills can also be developed.
At first, it will be difficult for you, for example, to make a 15-minute run every morning, but then slowly you will be drawn into such a regimen. First you need, then she herself will go away. Having overcome yourself, you will already be at the beginning of the path to a new life.
No concessions
Even when laziness overcomes you, and willpower disappears somewhere, it is important to set yourself up to achieve your goal.
I know it's not always enough intrinsic motivation Therefore, it is important to immediately reinforce your new habit with powerful motivation. For example, you are a very responsible person when you promise something. So, promise someone close to you that you will keep your house in perfect order for 2 months. Or say what with tomorrow stop eating meat.
Accountability to another has another plus: it is this second person who can give you a “magic kick” in his own words, if you suddenly want to “jump off”.
Expanding the circle of acquaintances
Living from scratch with old acquaintances will not work. Be sure to meet other people who share your new hobbies and habits. Interesting acquaintances will help you quickly let go of the past.
Making new, positive friends is impossible without. It is he who helps you to be a more sociable, active and interesting person. As you become like this, you will strive to communicate with your own kind.
As a result, you will gradually change your environment and free yourself from the always whining people to more positive and productive ones.
cardinal changes
By changing some of your habits, thinking and the people around you, you have reached the next important stage in life - "a time of dramatic change." It's time to find out what really brings you buzz in life: life in a new place, in a new status, etc.
Dreamed of leaving for the village - it's time. If you want to live in another city - it's time. Decided: “I want to quit!” - it's time. By the way, how to do the latter correctly, you can read in.
Life changetake risks
Clear business without fanaticism! Often, stereotypes and patterns become an obstacle to starting life from a new leaf. Take the risk of expressing your bold ideas, express yourself. Often you will be disturbed by childhood stereotypes, patterns inspired by the environment. But try to hear yourself what you really want and strive for it.
Enjoy
After a divorce, it is difficult to think about something positive; after a dismissal, fear may appear for future life. But don't panic. Try to enjoy the moment. Every moment. We have one life, and even after parting, losing something, it continues. We write the script of our own life.
You can always have time
It's never too late to start over. In adolescence, at 30 or 50 years old, when, it would seem, half of life is behind. Be always open to something new, do what you love and you will see success.
It is known that Henry Ford made the world-famous engine only at the age of 40. This was the beginning of his new life.
Ray Kroc, who founded McDonald's, sold paper cups until the age of 52, and only then opened his first store.
Dietrich Mateschitz, at the age of 40, founded the Red Bull company with his partners, which made him famous throughout the world.
Therefore, years are not an obstacle to starting a new life!
Books
There is no specific instruction on how to become a different person in order to live differently. Everything described above is just recommendations and tips that you may not even use. But to reinforce your desire to move to a new city or change something else, read motivational books:
- Eric Bertrand Larssen “Without self-pity. Push your limits."
- Brett Blumenthal “One habit a week. Change yourself in a year."
- El Luna “Between need and want. Find your path and follow it."
- Robert Holden "Starting a New Life!"
You can even memorize some quotes from these books. They can become the motto of your changes.
Movies
There are many filmed productions where you can get the motivation to change. After looking at them, you will immediately go “on the road” to new achievements. I present a selection of motivational films that confirm that it is never too late to start over:
- "Mountains and Stones".
- "Start from the beginning".
- "Surprise".
- "Eat Pray Love".
- “2+1”.
- "Always say yes".
- "Paths".
Trainings
Training - great way“put your brain back in place” after an event or stress. On the way to a dream, it helps to prioritize, make sure your goals are correct, and start changing.
An excellent online training is the Brain Detox course. You can find it on the Wikium website, where various simulators for brain activity are located.
“Brain Detoxification” is an excellent base for internal and external changes. After completing 10 lessons, you will be able to completely “reflash” your consciousness, learn to concentrate only on the important, feel how the level of anxiety has decreased and the quality of rest has improved, absent-mindedness has decreased, poisonous thoughts have begun to appear less.
Conducts classes with practical tasks well-known expert in developmental psychology Victor Shiryaev. In addition to theory, it will provide you various materials for self-improvement and will give the necessary recommendations.
Conclusion
What I want to say: Full time job over yourself you will definitely discipline and improve. Which way to go is up to you. No matter how distant the dream of a new life may seem, it will still loom in the distance if you do not start working. For this you need:
- Recognize the problem and write down everything that bothers you.
- Decide what exactly you want to change.
- Live in the present and get rid of stereotypes.
- take risks and write new script life.
The resources of your brain are not limited, tune in to the positive and strive for change! You will succeed! Lyudmila Redkina was with you and I am very interested to read in the comments what you think about this topic!
It's never too late to be who you want to be. Few of us do not want to change our lives for a better one. But what's stopping us from doing it? Nothing is impossible, and the dream life is closer than you think. How to live a bright, rich, interesting, full and happy life? How to change your life?
How to fulfill yourself in life and find your own path? Do the right thing, and opportunities will form. Small daily improvements lead to big success. We have compiled a list of what is guaranteed to improve your life in the future.
save the list for a better life. When you want to get something more out of life than you have now, then proceed to its implementation. Have you long dreamed of changing your life to another, where you are happier and more satisfied with yourself? In 5-10 years you will thank us for these tips. What to do now? Here's a 111-point plan for you. Each new day, acquire one good habit.
How to change your life?
1. Become more positive, optimistic and smiling. This is important advice.
2. Find your motivation within. Either you're tired or you're not doing what you want to do.
3. Get up earlier than usual to use the power of the morning and get more done.
4. Take a contrast shower. This will have a great effect on health, condition and beauty.
5. Be friendly to people. Be more open and sociable.
7. Make plans for the next day from the evening. You will be able to do more things.
8. Love mornings and Mondays. This is a new sheet that you fill out yourself.
9. Avoid critics, envious people and negative people. You don't need them.
10. Try yourself in different areas. Don't focus on one thing and don't put all your eggs in one basket.
11. Discipline is the key to any successful person.
12. Take care of time and do not waste it in vain. You have less than you think.
13. Become more confident. Without this, life cannot be changed.
14. In a conversation, listen to the person more than speak yourself. Be a good listener.
16. Give up what has no prospects for the future: relationships, friendships, work, the city.
17. Best time to start something is now. Don't wait until old age. Act right now.
18. Spend time outdoors every day. This will improve your mood and health.
20. Do not be stingy with praise and compliments. This will help improve relationships with others.
22. Sincerely thank life for the good that it has given you. The Universe remembers gratitude and helps in the future.
23. Do the important things first, don't procrastinate.
24. Meditate, reflect and rest. Find time for silence.
25. Strive to grow professionally in your field or others if you plan to change.
26. Don't go with the flow. Plan your life for a month, six months, a year, five and ten years ahead.
27. Learn to forgive and give a second chance to people. Nobody is perfect.
28. Be restrained in criticism, but generous in praise.
29. Let yourself be a child, fool around, play and have fun.
30. The worse and more harmful the food, the worse the body and brain work.
31. First think and then act, but not vice versa.
33. Eat slowly and never rush. Otherwise, it will have a bad effect on digestion.
34. Take a step towards your dream every day. Do the minimum program even in difficult times.
35. If the work does not make you happy and does not bring you closer to your dream, then change it.
36. Find teachers in your area of interest and follow their advice.
37. Set yourself up for guaranteed success, don't give up halfway through.
38. Drink more water to feel and look better.
39. Fear not obstacles. Be afraid to stand and be afraid of everything in the world all your life.
40. If you are alone, then love and enjoy loneliness, and do not suffer.
41. Do you want to find a soul mate? Search more actively, and choose more slowly.
42. Try to get enough sleep and do not go to bed later than 12 o'clock at night. You need rest for big wins.
43. Maintain order at home and at work.
44. Set a time frame for every task. This will at least double productivity.
45. It's never too late to try something new, even if you're afraid.
46. Analyze the information you consume. Do not clog your brain with slag.
47. Forgive yourself and others, leaving the past in the past.
48. Learn to handle money, save it and increase it.
49. Take responsibility for life. Your future depends only on you.
50. Do not borrow or lend. Avoid taking loans or buying in installments.
51. Keep your word and keep your promises.
52. Try to dress in a way that looks like a 1 million dollars. They are always greeted by clothes.
53. Avoid patterns and prejudices. Do not be inert and thoughts are above the rules.
54. Watch your language and what you say. Don't talk in vain.
55. Don't let fears, doubts or laziness stop you.
56. Accept what you cannot control and what does not depend on you.
58. Study psychology to better understand people.
59. Find the causes of past failures and defeats. Analyze your mistakes.
60. Do not spread gossip and do not speak badly about other people.
61. Leave early and don't be late. Punctuality is a good trait.
62. Follow the beauty. Take care of your face and body. Creams and cosmetics to help.
63. Find like-minded people who can teach you something or support you in a difficult moment.
64. By learning another language, you expand your capabilities and horizons.
65. Check the received information and develop critical thinking.
66. Spend time with loved ones. Don't forget them and forgive.
68. Focus not on problems, but on solutions.
69. A large number of things won't make you happy. Happiness lies outside consumerism.
70. Visualize your dreams. Imagine that you have already achieved what you want. This will help you tune into the same wavelength with your dream. Visualization makes dreams come true.
71. Calculate any situation a few steps ahead. Thoughts are wider, deeper and further.
72. Throw unrealistic and unrealistic goals. Why go to the bottom like the Titanic? Spend time and energy on more adequate dreams.
73. Download new music and listen to it more often. This is guaranteed to improve your mood.
74. Believe first of all in yourself, and not in someone else.
75. How to change your life? Change yourself. Work on your strengths and get rid of the weak.
77. Listen to other people's advice, but do what you decide for yourself.
78. Eat less sweets, and lean more on fruits and vegetables.
79. Put in place the inner critic, whiner and coward. Don't let him get in the way.
80. Set goals, track progress, and adjust plan.
81. Avoid empty quarrels and showdowns. This is a pointless waste of time and effort.
82. Have fun, go hiking, hang out with friends.
83. Expand your horizons. Washed on a large scale and globally.
84. Brainstorm from time to time to resolve issues that have arisen.
85. Read useful books that will help you become a better person. Dale Carnegie, Steve Harvey, Carl Rogers, Stephen Covey and others.
86. Isolate the main thing. Remember the Pareto Principle: 20% of your efforts bring 80% of your results. The remaining 80% of actions bring 20% of the results.
87. Treat yourself with respect, not stinging or mocking. Love yourself.
88. Do not sit at home, but often get out to new and interesting places. Expand your social circle.
89. Walk more and move more often, this will help to be in better shape.
90. Give kindness and help without expecting something in return. Everything will come back.
91. Do you dream of changing your life? Challenge yourself if you want to achieve something.
92. Don't be afraid or resist change. Use change to your advantage. Bet on them, as if catching a wave with a surfboard.
94. Show empathy and compassion for people. This will allow you to find a language with them to establish contact.
95. Be more open, simple and honest. Do not wear a mask of impregnability and coldness.
96. Visit your doctor and dentist regularly to keep fit.
97. Get rid of trash: garbage, negative people and bad habits.
98. Get married, start a family and have children. This new world where you will be happy.
99. Listen to constructive criticism and ignore others.
100. Become more open to new things, experiments and interesting possibilities.
101. You can become a professional in any field if you put in 10,000 hours. on her.
102. Rejoice in victories and thank life for success. Learn from defeat.
103. Learn to speak beautifully and speak in public. Come in handy.
104. Do you want to achieve something? So do something for this, and do not wait for a miracle.
105. Strive for constant growth and advancement, but not for perfection.
107. Keep a diary of success where you write down all your victories. Reread from time to time.
108. Don't wait for good chances, but create opportunities yourself.
109. Travel more often. It will give experience, inspiration and happiness.
110. Live and enjoy every moment of life. You never know which day will be your last. Live.
111. Do not betray yourself and be true to your dream.
How to change your life? Follow the advice, follow your dreams and enjoy life. It's never too late to be who you want to be. It's never too late to achieve what you dream of. It's time to go. Your dream has been waiting for you.
Continuous self-development - required condition human life. And the main goal of human life is the maximum disclosure of personal potential. But this is impossible without adequate self-criticism and reflection. Through the analysis of actions, character, appearance, we understand that we are not satisfied with ourselves, what we want to work on in order to get closer to our own ideal. By the way, I-ideal is a product of personality, each person has his own idea of the ideal.
To work on yourself, you need to draw up an accurate plan of action. To do this, it is necessary to specify the advantages and disadvantages, the state of affairs in the present. The way a person really is is called the real me. This is what a person can and can do, his actual habits, behavior patterns, values, advantages and disadvantages.
Changes for the better involve moving towards the I-ideal. This is what a person wants to become. Here we are faced with the first danger: it is necessary to have real ideas about your capabilities.
It is important to distinguish between what depends on you and what does not. This is especially true for appearance. Someone resorts to surgery, but this is not the best way out. What you cannot change, such as height, nose shape, eye color, must be accepted. It's also impossible to change. Like appearance, it is given from birth.
What can be changed in yourself:
- (both general orientation and individual qualities);
- attitudes, beliefs and values;
- behavior;
- speech;
- style;
- thinking;
As for abilities, it is not easy to change them - the makings are given from birth. However, psychologists say that 99% of success depends on diligence. So if you want to learn a new profession or hobby, then it all depends on you. And if in your case diligence is combined with abilities, then it will be much easier to achieve success.
Well, the last thing to consider is how other people see you and want to see you. Determine how important the opinions of others are to you. Maybe you are completely independent or want to listen to a couple of close people. Be prepared for the fact that your external and internal changes may lead to changes in the environment. It is possible that you even have to part with someone.
How to start changing outwardly
The human body and mind are interconnected. Internal changes are reflected in appearance, for example, it makes you straighten your back, and gaining makes your eyes shine. But the same is true in the opposite direction: external changes can change a person’s sense of self:
- Try to walk with a straight back, and you will notice how your mood improves, your self-confidence grows.
- Smile, and you will notice how the background of the mood stabilizes, the consciousness clears up.
- Put on a dress (for women) or a suit (for men) and you'll want to match the look, stop cursing or slouching. A woman will want to behave softer, be more gentle, and a man will become more determined.
Your style should be combined with attitude, lifestyle. Think about what clothes will suit the new look, what hairstyle will go with. As for the choice itself, this is rather a question for stylists and image makers.
And of course, remember general rules self care. You don't have to follow fashion or buy expensive brands. It is much more important to be neat: clean skin (depending on mental state and physical health), washed and ironed clothes, styled and trimmed hair.
Although all this is individual, I don’t know what your ideal appearance is. Someone wants to lose weight, and someone to get better or pump up. Someone consciously strives for deliberate sloppiness, for example, adolescents who are sympathetic to have very specific ideas about ideals and changes for the better.
In general, change is easy, the main thing is to start. Define your ideal and gradually move towards it: hairstyle, clothing, weight, body proportions, behavior. The last one deserves special attention and to a greater extent associated with internal changes.
How to start changing internally
You can change your appearance and change your wardrobe in one day, but internal changes will take months and years. Be prepared for this, as well as for the fact that in the process of work you will adjust the action plan.
What you can do right now:
- Formulate the goal of change, make a portrait of your future. Write a letter from the future to yourself. Reread it when you're tired. This is your motivation to keep changing.
- Write down the habits you want to get rid of on a piece of paper. Get rid of them right now. Don't wait for Monday or the last cigarette. She already was.
- Write down the qualities that do not suit you, and those qualities that you would like to develop.
- Based on the goals and objectives, select books, training courses. Maybe you want to improve your speaking skills or become more confident, or learn to play a musical instrument, learn etiquette, or learn a language. Choose a course and enroll now. If you want to lose weight or improve your shape, then sign up for a consultation with a trainer and nutritionist.
- Get busy. Remove time wasters from your life, optimize time.
- Think about what environmental conditions correspond to the ideal image of "I". Will your improved version be combined with the previous profession, place of work, social circle. If not, then you need to think about it. Although, it may be easier after some changes to pass the test and decide on a new type of activity. On the other hand, you can understand what the soul is drawn to, find out what you should be able to do, what qualities you should possess, and begin to develop it in yourself.
- Distinguish between those unsatisfactory conditions that you can change and those over which you are powerless. For example, you cannot influence the socio-economic situation of a country, but you can make adjustments to your social and economic status.
- Consult with your loved one. Ask how he will react to your changes, if he is ready to change with you. Think about what your relationship will look like in the future. Enlist a support group.
- Right now, start surrounding yourself with the people you want to be like. And get away from those who pull you to the bottom, keep you in your old life.
The main rule: do not rush into the pool with your head. You must have a plan and a clear understanding of your trajectory, you must not go "nowhere."
Afterword
Change for the better is a way out. Naturally, emotions and feelings such as fear, anxiety, restlessness, perhaps anger and apathy will arise. Secondary difficulties will arise, such as misunderstanding on the part of those who have remained at your old level of development. It is possible that you will want to quit everything, retreat. At such times, you need to remember the main goal. What or who did you decide to change for? The motivation must be very strong.
Change is both easy and difficult at the same time. It's just a little harder to figure out what you want to change, a little harder to figure out how to achieve the desired result, and even harder to achieve the goal and support the change.
