Death will come to each of us. Have you thought about how you will feel when your turn comes? Imagine if you would regret the way you lived your life?
Nurse Bronnie Ware from Australia cared for terminally ill patients for the last 12 weeks of their lives. She took the liberty of writing down the most common life mistakes reported by patients and published them on the Inspiration and Chai blog.
Patients regretted that they worked too hard, did not have the courage to express their feelings, lost contact with friends.
If people are able to learn from the mistakes of others, this list will help those who still have time to change their lives. So that when it's our turn to leave this world, not to regret anything.
1. I would like to have the courage to live life the way I want, not others.
Are you living the life that you chose yourself, or the one that others have imposed on you? Many people today build their lives based on the expectations of other people. In any field, they choose what their partners or the general public approve of.
Even when choosing a life's work, they first of all think about how their family, friends and acquaintances will react to this, and not about what they really like to do and what causes them genuine interest.
As a result, they meet the expectations of everyone: parents, teachers, acquaintances - but they themselves feel constant pressure. Most of the time they feel cornered and miserable.
If such a person tries to get out of artificial conditions and do what he has always secretly dreamed of, streams of indignation will fall upon him, he will lose a good relationship with many acquaintances and relatives, may lose a few friends.
How to avoid it
Stay true to yourself. If you have the courage to live the way you want to, you are sure to face criticism and disagreement. Listen calmly to the advice and opinions of others, but if they do not coincide with yours, do not pay much attention to them.
Just as they have the right to express their opinion, you have the right to ignore it.
You don't live to please anyone.
So do not be afraid to ruin relationships with dissenting people. Winston Churchill very rightly said: “Do you have enemies? Great. So, in your life you once defended something.
2. I wish I didn't have to work so hard.
IN modern society taken to sink into. People are now busier than at any time in history, working 12-hour days and even longer (yes, the situation of workers in factories at the beginning of the 20th century was much worse, but then they had no choice, but we do).
Parents rarely see their children and shift the care of them onto the shoulders of grandparents or hired nannies. People do not have time for relationships and other personal matters, work is always a priority, it rises above everything else.
Yes, work provides a livelihood, but for some people it becomes the main parameter of self-identification.
How to avoid it
There is no such thing as not having time to do something. It's all about how you prioritize.
And at the same time, many of these sufferers live in comfortable conditions, have stable jobs, decent incomes, healthy social environments and excellent families.
Despite the growing welfare of society, people are not getting happier - in fact, they are becoming more unhappy. Why is this happening? Because the feeling of unhappiness does not depend on material well-being, it depends on the person's opinion about what it means to be happy.
How to deal with it
Realize that happiness is an individual choice. Many people believe that happiness depends on some factors. They think that they will be happy if they achieve this, the other, the third, if their needs are satisfied.
But happiness does not depend on achievements and does not come with them or after them. Happiness is something you can experience right now if you allow yourself to do so. You can be happy right now if you want to be. The question is, do you want to?
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These are the most common mistakes that almost every person makes in his life. What about you? Do you have any regrets that you did not tell, missed or did not achieve something in your life?
Why does it happen that people with the same starting conditions and life potential have completely different achievements? One person achieves stunning career and financial success, while the other is constantly in huge debt.
Some people are constantly developing, while others are in the same position as at 18, or even worse, when the pension comes. The reason for this state of affairs is the life mistakes that we make.
First life mistake. We seek to escape from our problems. Every unpleasant situation in life must be resolved as soon as possible. Otherwise, problems accumulate and “hit” the development process like a snowball.
The second mistake in life. Communication with the wrong people. Our environment influences success more than many used to think. This applies to both close relatives and just acquaintances. If they are skeptical about your endeavors, constantly whine and complain about life, then it is better to stop communicating with such persons. If this is not possible, then communication should be minimized. Chat with successful people , the ones that excel and motivate you.
The third mistake in life. Lie to yourself. Self-deception is extremely dangerous. So you will never achieve success in any area, be it sports, finance, career, and so on. Be honest with yourself.
The fourth life mistake. Live in the past. This mistake is shared by most people who think about how good they were in the past. “We lived like this under the USSR, and now what can I afford?”, “How was it good at my last job and with a higher salary?” - these are standard thoughts of a loser that prevent it from developing further.
Fifth life mistake. They are afraid to make mistakes and scold themselves for them. Every mistake should be seen as a positive experience, not a disaster. This state of affairs sets positive developments further.
Sixth mistake in life. Measure success and happiness with money. Many people think that when they earn a million, they will be successful and happy. Money is only one of the means to an end. Real success is measured by the ability to do what you love, self-realization and a harmonious combination of all spheres of life. Finance- This an integral part of success, but other components are equally important.
The seventh mistake in life. Waiting for better times. Many losers put off taking action to achieve their goals until the next month, Monday, or year. This is fundamentally wrong. You should start now with the opportunities that you have. Otherwise, the probability that you will not be able to achieve your goals is close to 100%.
Eighth life mistake. Feel sorry for yourself and complain about life. Such people are psychologically programmed to fail. They have a lot of blocks in their subconscious that hinder the achievement of goals. And, as a rule, such people have no special goals either.
Ninth mistake in life. Getting into a vicious circle. This error can apply to different areas of life. Regarding health, it may look like this - a person trains, and then breaks into all serious (alcohol, overeating, etc.). After a while, he comes to his senses and starts all over again. Or even easier in financial plan: work - home - work, without any movement forward.
Tenth life mistake. Think in negative terms. Thus, you are programming yourself for failure. Thoughts “What if I can’t?”, “What if I lose money?” should be replaced with the following: “I will succeed!”, “I have enough money for this!” And so on.
Life mistake number eleven. Worry about what other people think. Remember, if you fail, only you are responsible for it. But if you succeed, it will be only your success. Other people don't care about you. Only if you don't owe them anything!
You should carefully remember these life mistakes and try not to allow them on your way to success!
This article talks about how mistakes in a person's life affect his life path. Almost all mistakes are necessary for life experience, but the ability to forgive yourself for misconduct is necessary.
A person does a lot of wrong things in his life, if he did something wrong, then he is told that they learn from mistakes and this is necessary for life experience. Many people do not know how to feel about what they have done, especially if it has hurt loved ones. Mistakes are not only their own, but also others. Are they really needed for the right path in life?
How do people perceive mistakes?
Mistakes in life are many and very different depending on how people accept them. There are stupid things that then lead to the fact that he is simply touched by his naivety in the past. Some mistakes help a person gain invaluable experience, he can even give advice to others based on his past behavior.
There are global mistakes when a person chooses the wrong path at all, which he really wanted. For example, he chose the wrong profession, job, life partner. These are the mistakes that practically cannot be corrected, because it is impossible to change what has already been lived. People who make global mistakes suffer greatly from this.
If the mistake is no longer corrected, then the person considers himself a victim of fate and falls into depression. But you can always correct the situation and direct it in the right direction. To understand yourself and the situation that was the fault of a person, you need to ask a few questions. They must be answered honestly.
What questions should you ask yourself to fix a difficult situation?
- What is the reason for making mistakes? You can’t lie to yourself on this issue, even if the fault lies entirely with the person, and it is very difficult to answer.
- Could this have happened by accident? Sometimes it happens that life dictates its own rules and puts them in such a framework that practically nothing depends on a person. If everything happened just like that, then you need to remember these words: “Everything that is done, everything is for the better!”
- What life experience can be drawn from this situation? Only loafers can not make mistakes in life.
- Who can help fix the situation? You can always ask for help, there is nothing wrong with that. The mistake sometimes helps to find new friends.
- How can a person solve a problem? Mistakes should always be tried to be corrected, because guilt can overwhelm. Sometimes this happens after a while, when a person is fully aware of his guilt. You need to come up with a plan to get out of an unpleasant situation.
How to learn to forgive mistakes
A person sometimes makes mistakes because of surrounding stereotypes and fear of other people's opinions and condemnation. Often a person is afraid to take a step that he considers right, but others say that this is a bad deed. If a person is unhappy in marriage, then he remains in this state for a long time, because he is worried about what relatives and friends will say if he gets divorced.
Also, people make mistakes, fearing loneliness. He fears the uncertainty of the future. For example, a woman can no longer be married to a man, but is afraid to be alone, she thinks that she cannot raise a child alone, decide global problems by oneself. Such women are afraid to imagine a happy life without their unloved husband.
People do not change their jobs because they are afraid of being left without Money, they are afraid to take risks and give themselves a chance to find a better paying job. You can pity yourself as much as you like, but you must learn to forgive yourself for all mistakes, even if they have not yet been made.
Mistakes affect a person's life path, but they do not punish, but provide an opportunity to do something new in life, to break the circle that keeps them inside. Mistakes will always be made, you need to accept them and not suffer all the time and look for the culprits. To find , a person must make a mistake at least once.
It is always easier to forgive other people than oneself, because a person always tries to justify himself. A person who knows how to admit his mistakes and forgive for them is ready to change in life.
You need to allow other people to make mistakes and correct themselves, while you need to offer your help, which is sometimes very necessary for them. Must be able to find new life paths, by making mistakes, then there will be something to compare with each other.
All for now.
Sincerely, Vyacheslav.
People suffer because of nonsense, trifles, crossing out fate with a single tiny mistake, invisible even through a microscope. I am happy that I live, I can breathe, have fun, smile, sometimes crying, observing the beauty of the universe and its infinity.
Stimuli for progress, paradoxically, are still laziness, resentment and mistakes.
Tomorrow will come, then today's mistakes and mistakes will be corrected soon.
Who he was, time will tell. Worst or best is not clear. If learning happens on mistakes in life, then my successful mistake is he. A failure with a loud crash - bright, but beloved.
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Mistakes are equated with punctuation marks, so that there is meaning not only in the written lines, but in fate.
Life consists of privileges, which are delusions, maximalism, mistakes in life, misfortunes and many other vices. IN afterlife privileges are missing.
We meet, we meet, we fall in love, we make mistakes. Life is elementary when it is already joyful because your loved one is holding your hand.
I am weak in spirit and nerves - I run away from scandals, cold, reproaches, hide in my shell and wait out the critical period alone so as not to hear reproaches for incompetence and uncleanliness.
People often make mistakes in life, They only built it for so long, they break all plans, They break children's dreams into pieces, they finally get confused, and then everyone who was nearby turn away, hoping that this is a dream trying to wake up, with pain in the heart from mistakes it is difficult live, and only mom can forgive you everything ...
don't cry, baby... well, we broke up, so what? people live together for 35 years and disperse. what is 3 years? Nothing. analyze your own mistakes and try to build your life from scratch.
Why do parents often interfere in our lives? After all, we also have the right to make mistakes ... and we learn from our own ... I want them to learn to trust us ... -
Only a person who goes forward in spite of difficulties and sometimes making mistakes will find the right light in life.
We strive for ideals all our lives, but only when we reach the highest point of fulfillment, our desires, do we understand that from the very beginning we needed very little to be happy. It is sad to think that a person will never understand this without making a mistake ...
Sorry I was wrong. -I know. in my life I made a mistake only once, when I met your eyes. ©
The biggest mistake we make in our lives is believing what other people say about us.
if I ever get a chance to meet you again in my life, I swear that I won't repeat my previous mistake... I WON'T LET YOU GO!!!
I realized that nothing will save, in the end, life on earth, except faith in life itself, in its power of healing, in its ability to survive our mistakes and greet us when we learn to correct our mistakes. MJ
Just one mistake in your life can make your whole life a mistake...
Dear Santa Claus, I want this New Year I got a call from an unknown number, I made a mistake ... but so wrong, so right for life !!!
Even if it will be my worst mistake in my life... but it will be MY!!!
We have the right to make mistakes. We wait for affection when we feel bad or when we make a mistake in choosing a path. We must be able to think about ourselves. Life is unpredictable. It requires us to be independent. We are breathtaking, we are overwhelmed with fears, we wander in the dark ...
honey remember... you will never find a silly girl like me!!! who will ask you everything!!! I'm an angel... and you are the biggest mistake in my life... I messed with you more than once... but it won't happen anymore... I don't love you... I'm FREE!!!=))
Play with me more friend life friend pain. I made a mistake at the hour when I divided my life by zero.
I'm watching a movie called "my life". I looked it over a few times, but still couldn't find the error in the script that caused us to break up.
We had such dreams: family, children, happy life without quarrels and insults! But it all ended in one moment, because of your stupid mistake! Why was all this???
I read the status - “I ask you girls .. Never listen to the advice of your girlfriends regarding your personal life ... Hear. ?? Never.. !!" baby, don't you think that you have your own head on your shoulders? and blaming your mistakes on your girlfriend is at least not nice !!!
Do not be afraid to make mistakes, stumble and fall, often the greatest reward comes from what scares us the most. Maybe you will achieve everything you want, or maybe even more than you imagined. Who knows where life will take you, the journey is long and in the end the journey itself is the goal.
The worst mistake you can make in life is to be afraid to make a mistake all the time...
Errors are the punctuation marks of life, without which, as in the text, there will be no meaning.
No one will help me ... No one will help me correct all the mistakes that I made in my life ...
such mistakes are not forgotten. They become the most significant and “nostalgic” in our lives. bug people
The Greatest Mistake in a life that you can tolerate is to be in constant fear of the possibility of making a mistake.
Sheet-life, we do things with a pencil, we try to erase mistakes with a soft eraser, but you always need to check the quality of the eraser so as not to make dirt on the sheet .. (c)
Errors are the punctuation marks of life, without which, as in the text, there will be no meaning.
life is work on mistakes, but there are mistakes that cannot be corrected, they firmly settle in the soul of the person you hurt ... !!!
The biggest mistake you can make in life is to be in constant fear of making a mistake. (E. Green)
life is a good teacher...but she takes dearly for her mistakes..
And she learned to be silent about what is in her soul, because no one cares. Maybe, of course, this is the biggest mistake in her life. But she has learned. (
You can do more, just believe in yourself. You believe in strength, do not let yourself be swallowed up by negativity. You are on the air of life, although there were mistakes.
The biggest mistake is to make the life of another person the meaning of your life. (With)
Most of our life is spent on mistakes and bad deeds, a significant part of it takes place in inaction, in the fact that we do not do what we need ...
You meet a guy for a long time, everything seems to be fine ... and then a dream guy appears in your life ... and you don’t know what to do (((you are afraid to make a choice (and I made a mistake (now one ...
Starting life from scratch, use a simple pencil and an eraser ... Well, you know, like in school, in which case, you could correct mistakes without much effort.
I want to return time back, live it again ... And do everything. what she did, without changing anything, but repeating old mistakes. Only after them did I learn to live ... But my main mistake was the table YOU: first gave me life with your love, and then again took it from me, teasing like a little child!
life is like a house of cards... the slightest mistake... and everything is destroyed...
The smartest thing in life is still death, because only it corrects all the mistakes and stupidities of life (p.) V. O. Klyuchevsky
all the most important mistakes in life begin with the words: it will be better ...))
It would probably be funny if it wasn't so sad. The past is gone but without you now somehow empty. Give me a look and a loving smile. I love. Without you my life is a mistake
- The biggest mistake in the life of a fifth-year student is to lose a record book! - And the biggest mistake in the life of a first-year student is to approach a fifth-year student and ask: “Can you show me your transcript?”
If you found a person and made a mistake in him ... do not be upset ... and do not be afraid to be disappointed again ... such is life .. you will meet your person but it just should not happen now ..
The best school is life, the best teacher is a mistake, the best education is experience!
Boy, hang out 😉 When it seemed to me that I needed you, I was depressed) I made a mistake in you, as well as in a dozen others who are already beyond the boundaries of my life) You are there)
the mistake of the first minute leaves a trace for life ...
How nice it is to realize that if you are a mistake in someone's life, then you are still the best.
Mistakes happen in life. Some even have names.
People often make mistakes in life, The world that has been built for a long time is broken in a second. Shatter children's dreams into pieces, Completely confused. And when everyone who was around turns away Hope it's a dream, trying to wake up. It's hard to live with pain in the heart from mistakes And only mom can forgive you everything ...
And yet you were mistaken in saying that it would hurt me when he disappeared from my life, I just miss him ...
It would be a mistake to believe that this day is a mistake. This is just the result of numerous mistakes. I look back at the past as if looking for a marriage to eliminate it. But this is life, damn it, not a clock, not a computer, not a mobile phone that can be fixed. It's my fucking life.
A mistake in life is a misdeed that did not bring pleasure.
He was the worst person in my life. Or better, I don't know yet. If it's true that one should learn from one's mistakes, then he is mine. best mistake. He is my brightest and most favorite failure.
this is MY life and MY mistakes .. I'll figure it out myself ... without you!
this is how it happens, you made a mistake once, time passes, and you understand that if it were not for the mistake that you considered a trifle, your life would be completely different ...
Mistakes will always be a part of our lives, so why waste time kicking yourself for the sins of the past.
it hurts never your boyfriend left you it hurts when your mom cries… mother’s tears are the biggest mistake in our life… friends don’t make your mothers hurt tears because of you…
And how I would like to return everything back, correct those mistakes that will already remain in my life - forever!
she has learned to remain silent about what is in her soul, because no one cares. maybe, of course, this is the biggest mistake in her life. but she learned.
life is a good teacher, but she takes too much for her mistakes..
If you feel that you have not made a single mistake in your life, it means that in your life you have not tried anything new.
Maybe, of course, this is the biggest mistake in my life. But I have learned...
Keep in mind that no matter what you do, mistakes will always be a part of your life. So don't waste time kicking and cursing yourself for the sins of the past.
Errors are the punctuation marks of life, without which, as in the text, there will be no meaning.
In a couple, we all make mistakes in life .. (c)
If the bottom button of a shirt is not buttoned correctly, then all the others will be buttoned incorrectly. There are many mistakes in life, which are not mistakes in themselves, but the consequences of the first button, buttoned incorrectly.
And every day, scrolling through the past day before going to bed and correcting all the mistakes, makes your life perfect ...
Life is a good teacher ... but it takes the road for your mistakes ..
We all make 2 mistakes in life: we bury a living relationship and keep a dead one
And she learned to be silent about what is in her soul, because no one cares. Maybe, of course, this is the biggest mistake in her life. But she has learned. (With)
Getting married is a very serious step! When we quarrel with our parents, we don’t think that we need to look for new ones! So the husband should become a native little man! One for life! The main thing is not to make a mistake in choosing!
Errors are the punctuation marks of life, without which, as in the text, there will be no meaning.
A true friend who wishes you well will definitely point out your mistakes, but a person who wishes evil will decorate everything with flattery and lull the mind ... Such is the law of life (c)
Or maybe in fact no one puts spokes in the wheels for us? maybe we ourselves interfere with our happiness, making stupid mistakes and regretting those who we don’t need at all, passing by those who are able to bring joy into our lives ..
One mistake in your life can make your whole life a mistake.
The one who does not try is not mistaken, the one who does not make mistakes does not learn, because they learn from mistakes, Just do not be afraid to make mistakes, mistakes are a big part of human life, except for those that cost in life ...
all blunders in life begin with the phrase “it will be better this way”
All the mistakes that were made After life will be forgiven And the friends that were abandoned Quietly say that everything in the past will be forgiven, people, you know, except for the tears that our mothers shed empty beds at their children at night ..
I fell in love like a first grader. There are so many guys around. But for me he is the only one. His eyes. So kind. Funny. His smile is the most dazzling in the world. But it is a pity that now he is not smiling at me and does not see my suffering. Why can't you turn back time and return those better days in my life? and those mistakes made by me, to correct?
I will not refuse to live my life from beginning to end. I only ask for the right, which the authors enjoy, to correct in the second edition the errors of the first.
You have probably seen sometime how a child learns to walk or ride a bike. He constantly stumbles and falls before he starts to get good at it. Mistakes give us experience. The road to success is paved with failure. Believing in yourself is already half the battle. And never regret anything, because every little thing in your life, even mistakes, helped you become what you, in fact, are.
Below are 12 tips to help you survive failure.
1. Everything is fine.
Everything will be fine. Try to get some rest. Moving forward is not a momentary thing, it consists of many small steps that help to free yourself from the burden of the past. Don't let a bad day make you feel like you're a failure in life. Just because today is bad doesn't mean tomorrow won't be great. You just need to get to it. The best things usually happen when you least expect it. So try to smile more. Not because life is easy, beautiful and meets all your expectations, but because it is only your choice to be happy and grateful for all the good that you have, and all the bad that has bypassed you.2. There is no success without failure.
Only those who do nothing do not make mistakes. It is better to live a life full of failures from which you learned the right experience than a life full of regrets about missed opportunities.3. A positive attitude programs a positive result.
If you don't like something, change it. If you are unable to change this, then change your attitude to the situation. The pain is uncontrollable, but the feeling of deprivation is always your choice. Remember the words of Winston Churchill: “Success is the movement from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm along the way.” You must be sure that you can do something else before you actually have such an opportunity. A negative attitude programs a negative result. Dot. The situation is always resolved in the best way, if you make the most of the circumstances that have arisen.4. Success is always closer than it seems.
Your mistakes and failures should serve as an impetus to action, and not an excuse for inaction. Use them as steps up, lean on them. Mistakes give you invaluable experience. Each one brings you closer ultimate goal. The only mistake that can harm you is inaction for fear of making a mistake. Failure is not a fall; failure is the unwillingness to rise after a fall.5. Distinguish between yourself and your mistakes.
Remember, no one taught you how to live right. Therefore, mistakes will happen, no one is immune from this. Your mistakes are not you yourself, you are your power and your ability to determine your own future. No matter what yesterday was, the future is always a blank slate. What will be written on it is up to you. Check out the article "7 Habits of a Successful Person".6. Life always teaches its best lessons at the most unexpected times.
The best lessons are never learned by us intentionally and are given by life sometimes in the most difficult times. Therefore, just know that one way or another, failures will come your way, and there is nothing wrong with that. The sooner you accept them, the sooner you can recover and continue on the path to a beautiful tomorrow.7. Mistakes are not as scary as they might seem.
Mistakes and failures are almost never really as terrible as they seem to us, but even then they give us the opportunity to become stronger than we are. Never let one cloud cover the entire sky. The sun will always shine at least in some corner of your life. Sometimes you just need to forget all the unpleasant emotions for a while and focus on realizing what you deserve and never stop moving forward.8. Failure can turn into good luck.
Often, not getting anything turns out to be a huge blessing, because it allows you to subject the circumstances to analysis and reassessment and opens the door to new opportunities and information that you might otherwise miss. Remember, sometimes things break up in life only to make things work out for the best for you later on.9. You yourself are the blacksmith of your own happiness.
You can dwell on past mistakes, or you can move forward to your own happiness. A smile is your choice, not a miracle. Don't make the mistake of waiting for someone to come along and make you happy. Real happiness never comes from outside. Peace of mind comes at the moment when you forbid external circumstances to control your emotions.10. Mistakes are one form of practice.
All professionals were once amateurs. The sooner you learn to calmly respond to your own mistakes, the sooner you will master your own professional sphere. Of course, you can never be 100% sure that this will help your growth, but in any case, inaction does not help anything, you must be 100% sure of this. Therefore, try again and again - in the end, you will either succeed or learn a very important lesson. The situation is win-win.11. You are developing.
If, after another failure, you get up, dust yourself off and move on, you will gain invaluable experience and another chance to fix everything. Remember, no matter how many mistakes you make or how slowly you move, you are still one step further than someone who is standing still. Don't waste time regretting what you can't change. Just start all over again right now, using the experience gained from past mistakes, and next time you will do better.12. Life goes on.
Mistakes hurt, but over the years, all of them put together will make up your experience that led you to success. If this good experience, then the result will be great, if it is unsuccessful, then it is still an experience. Your success depends solely on your attitude. Face all good and bad, joys and sorrows equally, be grateful for what you have, and love it. Learn to forgive yourself and others, but never forget anything. Learn from every mistake, but don't regret anything. Life is change, anything can go wrong, but life doesn't end there.The translation of the article was carried out with the help of a translation agency
