We spend our lives on negativity, but practically no one monitors this for themselves and, of course, will not agree with this statement.
But from marathon to marathon, reading hundreds of reports, I see from the outside what people think about in their everyday life, day after day. The vast majority lives in a stream of fears, thoughts about problems, resentments, not noticing the beauty around and happy moments.
And some people try to prove that everything is worse for them than for others, creating the illusion of some such exclusivity, because only they are so unlucky, only they are treated unfairly, only they suffer so much.
But the desire to look weaker is quite understandable and understandable. At first, you can get extra attention, love and care. But in the end, pity leads to a dead end, most of those around you get tired of endless whining, and our sufferer is surprised to find how friends turn away at a difficult moment, but even here he does not see a causal relationship, continues to look for and find negativity, attracting even more troubles to himself and even serious illnesses.
It is much more effective to receive love and care through gratitude, the ability to see the good in yourself and others, and focus on the positive.
And it often happens that a person knows how to enjoy life, but still looks for flaws in himself and in his life.
For example, a girl sits in a beauty salon and thinks: “Everyone is so beautiful around, and I’m so fat ... I’m on vacation soon, and you won’t find a single suitable dress for my terrible figure.”
And her friend at this time thinks about her: “God, how lucky she is, she is so beautiful, she can afford her hair in the salon, and she will soon go to the sea.”
And similar situations arise for all of us at every step. We are always dissatisfied with something, but we rarely notice how rich we are, how much we get.
Have you thought about what you spend your life on?
Why do we waste our precious time so thoughtlessly and in vain? Why do we not appreciate the main thing: good health, the health of loved ones, the smile of a child, the beauty outside the window?
Hundreds of pleasant little things and real miracles every day we simply do not notice.
For example, you come to work, and someone of your colleagues said something unpleasant to you. That's it, now you have a whole day, or maybe a whole week, twist it in your head, inflating the problem, like balloon, thereby attracting even more negativity - after all, where attention is directed, energy flows there, and this is what your life is filled with.
Did you have to borrow some money? For many of us, this problem destroys 24 hours a day. We think that there is not enough money at all, and cash flows close, financial position gets even worse.
You hold a grudge against your ex. Scrolling through negative thoughts in your head, you again and again become emotionally involved in past events, thereby destroying yourself, your health, and then other areas of life.
The more negativity in the head, the more of it in life.
I write about this again and again, because I constantly see evidence of how the way of thinking affects life, and I really want to finally convey to everyone that living in joy, focusing on good is beneficial. An amazing story happened to me recently that illustrated this principle again. I called a taxi, and suddenly a luxury car was brought by, a well-dressed driver was driving. I even wondered why such a respectable man works in a taxi. The way was long, the driver was sociable, he talked a lot and with pleasure about himself. 3 years ago this man, let's call him M., lost everything: his wife, job, money. And this happened because he hated those around him, considering them to be guilty of all his problems, he was very sorry for himself, alcohol helped to reduce the severity of suffering. As a result, he was kicked out of work, his friends turned away, his wife left with the children for another city, and even evicted from the apartment.
And then he began to tell me about the site that turned his life upside down. M. realized that only he himself was responsible for everything that happened in his life. And then he decided to change. I stopped blaming everyone around, started writing dreams, stopped drinking. Then he got a job at new job, reconciled with his wife, earned a decent amount and bought an apartment and a car. And in a taxi, he moonlights to communicate more with new people. (strange, but recently I also met a taxi driver who works in a taxi for this very purpose,although he has his own workshop... approx. Catherine), and enjoy traveling around the city at night.
He said to himself: “I didn’t communicate with anyone for a year, I was angry and offended by the whole world. And now he moved to this city, moved his family here. When I have free time, I take a taxi and meet the locals.”
And then M.! For the first time, I accidentally met a stranger offline, whom the site helped change his life, listened to my name and Katyusha and the story about us.
However, I'm not talking about that. I just wanted to give another example of how you can ruin your life, living in the negative, but it is also possible to fix, restore everything.
The most difficult and most important thing is to let go of your problems, suffering, resentment, illness, stop clinging to them, scrolling in your head, not just living with this baggage for many years, but continue to accumulate, inflating to a huge scale.
Nobody knows how long he has left to live. See how much you have. You are alive! You have food, clothes. You have a roof over your head, even if it is rented housing, you have the Internet and some kind of gadget, otherwise you would not be able to read this article.
You have brains, each of you has talents, only many justify their inaction by the alleged lack of abilities and talents (we also constantly read this in reports, in plain text).
Look how much good and beautiful is around and you can see it!
Many people can draw, sing, dance, sew, knit, cook delicious food, write poetry or stories.
What do you want now? What are you dreaming about? What gives you pleasure?
Take care of it! Try to catch happiness every day, do not waste your life on negativity, start living from scratch.
After talking with that driver, I thought for a long time that I needed something that would help get rid of negativity, merge negative emotions. And reading the reports of the participants at the marathons, I understood that we just need to create a Problem Destroyer.
And so Catherine brought my idea to life.
We've built a real Problem Killer that we've only recently launched, but we're already getting feedback that it actually works.
You will not find such a program anywhere in the world! (until they plagiarized, like everything else ... approx. Ekaterina)
Even if you have a very serious problem, I'm sure the Exterminator will definitely help you.
To do this, you need to give your problems to the Higher Forces for resolution and mentally let them go, switch.
I am often asked how to switch, I can’t, thoughts are spinning in my head on their own.
This is the case when you subconsciously need this situation, you hold on to it like a lifeline.
Here you need to analyze, but why do I need it? What bad will happen if my problem is solved?
Often we hold on to problems in order to beg for more pity, care and love (as I mentioned above), help, attention. Sometimes we are afraid of change, envy, condemnation.
Yes, you can imagine, the fear of judgment often prevents us from getting rid of problems.
In this case, you need to work on self-esteem and dependence on someone else's opinion.
By the way, do you know that when you condemn others, speak negatively about someone, you take on the trials and sorrows of this person?
Do you need it? Before you condemn or insult someone, think about whether you want new problems?
If someone speaks out in your address, then he already takes away some of your troubles on himself. So don't be afraid of judgment, live your life and follow your dreams.
A great way to switch from negativity and problems is to fill your head with positive thoughts and deeds. Read uplifting books more often, watch comedies, listen to your favorite music. Make wishes more often and buy yourself gifts.
Remember, you are the architect of your own life!
Change bad bricks for happiness bricks.
Watch your thoughts, take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
No one is to blame for your problems and failures, only you all pull it into your life, only you can change everything.
Drain your negativity into the Destroyer and start a new happy life only with good thoughts.
And may all your dreams come true!
Problems, problems… big and small.
They are always with us. Sometimes there are so many of them that it seems that the whole world is against you. There are also periods of relative calm, when light clouds only slightly disturb the idyll of life.
How often do you want to hide from your problems somewhere far away.
But it is unlikely that this will work out, even if we choose the other end of the Earth.
We often treat the problem as if it were something external that has fallen on us:
"Here I am, and here is my problem."
It also happens like this: "Here are my PROBLEMS, but here I am."
As long as there is such a division in our head, PROBLEMS remain.
You can be offended by life, angry, fight with them. And you can admit that they are.
And not somewhere nearby, but in ourselves.
Sometimes it is impossible to agree with this:
- How so? After all, my money was stolen!
- They changed me!
- I was deceived!
- I was insulted!
WHY IS THE PROBLEM IN ME?
To some extent, we are always a reflection of what happens to us.
And it is our perception that makes the situation a problem.
Instead of a storm of emotions, ask yourself questions:
- Why did she come into my life?
- What does she give me?
- What can I do to solve it?
- What can't I do?
Getting answers to the first two questions is very important. After all, if you do not think about it, then the lesson that life has given you has not been passed. Perhaps that is why some people constantly "attract" trouble. Complaining about injustice, they do not even notice that life “calls them to the blackboard” again and again, and “puts deuces” for unlearned lessons.
Accept what happened "as a given." Think: what now depends on you! And do it!
And then “let go” of thoughts about the problem.
Our reality is constantly changing.
If after some time you realize that you have not done everything, act! And then let things take their course.
Over time, the problem will either be resolved or it will cease to be.
Life always goes towards optimists!
Do not "drive" the problem deep into yourself. This is a time bomb.
If not enough own resources, use the help of friends or specialists. But do not shift her decision to others. People will never do what depends only on you.
Of course, there are things that are out of your control. But as one of the rules of NLP says:
« The universe is a friendly environment". Give her your share of the work.
We ourselves provide energy supply to any problem, and from our own reserves.
And the fact that it is growing, and our strength is running out - only our merit.
All work takes place exclusively in our head.
So we can easily make a molehill out of a fly, or do otherwise.
For example, “turn on curiosity”: see some clues, think about what can be useful. Feel like an explorer ().
This pragmatic approach is very helpful.
You can do “exactly the opposite”: stop being interested in the problem.
Without your attention, it can fade away.
Milton Erickson sometimes used a similar technique. Once, the mother of a teenager turned to him, whose entire face was covered in youthful acne. He advised her to go to a ski resort with him, but to make sure that during the whole time that they were there, the teenager never looked in the mirror. Two weeks later, “the result was obvious” and on the face too!
Our personal freedom lies in the fact that we can learn to experience the emotions and states we need, and free ourselves from the fears, hatreds, resentments and restrictions that live in us. And this is another way to get rid of problems.
It's not that easy, but it's quite possible. We are able to control emotions. Able to receive and analyze feedback from the world. It's just a matter of awareness and constant training. Over time, our skill will move into the area of the unconscious, and so much effort will no longer be required.
In his novel "War and Peace" Leo Tolstoy said a wonderful phrase:
« Wealth is poverty, glory is the unknown, power is subservience, strength is weakness,
Health is disease, education is ignorance, work is leisure, satiety is hunger, virtue is vice. The point is only O greater or lesser degrees of freedom».
There is a problem, and there are two poles of its solution: resource and non-resource.
Our degree of freedom is in the choice of movement towards one or another pole.
We often act according to habitual patterns.
Therefore, some are overgrown with problems, like a "snowball", considering the world as "a place of survival and great difficulties."
And others, even with serious trials, are constantly reborn, “like a Phoenix bird from the ashes.”
They turn all their life difficulties into invaluable experience and use them for their own good.
Knowing which path you are on is a very important step in getting rid of problems.
Someone believes that his problems will be resolved if a loved one appears in his life.
But this is an "escape from reality" and not the most The best way shifting their tasks to another person. Another illusion and another disappointment….
Often we think that our problems will disappear if we have money (car, housing, good job). Life proves otherwise.
How many times have stories been written and shown about people who have won large sums of money in the lottery. None of them said that they became happier from winning, but there were more problems. In most cases, the money was wasted, and their owners became poorer than before.
Of course, we get great satisfaction from the things that surround us. But they cannot give happiness.
We often don't think: “What really makes us happy?”
And it turns out that these are the simplest things.
Sometimes it is a quiet summer evening, a breath of fresh air after the hospital walls, tea carefully prepared by a loved one, a ray of sunshine sliding down the cheek, the joyful eyes of a child or a leisurely conversation among friends.
We feel happy when we live in harmony with ourselves and gratefully accept life in all its manifestations.
And then we experience resonance with the world. We no longer think:
We see in them only clues from the universe.
ALL THE BEST.
WITH THANKS! ARINA
What prevents a person from being happy on his own? Not the government, not the set of circumstances, character, bad luck, or anything else that a person with a victim complex used to attribute as the source of his misfortunes and problems. A person will then understand what prevents him from being happy when he realizes that all the problems are in his head.
Many people think about how to get rid of the problems that haunt them in life. As a rule, at the same time, he begins to look for the source of these problems around himself: in his environment, heredity, lack of luck, fatal circumstances, or fate. As many alleged reasons, there are also many ways in which people try to solve their problems: turning to a psychologist, advice in fashion magazines, newfangled trainings, even fortunetellers and sorcerers. A person is ready to give any money for valuable advice or outside help, but does not even realize that he can help himself better than others.
Victim Complex
The fact is that the victim complex is a kind of complex that is present in almost every person, it is this complex that makes us forget about personal responsibility and live with an eye on other people. This complex is acquired and absorbed with mother's milk. According to the well-known expression, we are all victims of victims", because childhood, parental attitudes, models of behavior and interaction with the world adopted from the family are of great importance for laying in the psyche of this particular complex.
Parents give us back what was invested in them and what they learned in their lifetime. Typically, this is sacrificial psychology, in which people
- do not want under any pretext to be responsible for their lives,
- get used to justifying their failures and mistakes with a bunch of third-party reasons,
- they like to nod at circumstances, evil tongues, damage and evil eye,
- they do not want to turn inward and try, at least try to understand what exactly they caused this or that problem in their life.
Gradually, the victim complex grows together with the personality of a person so much that crying into a vest, blaming others for all his troubles and misfortunes, becomes habitual for him. The notorious "who is to blame?" will always be somewhere external environment, senseless and merciless to the unfortunate victim. And only a few are ready to accept that their environment is a reflection of personal ideas about the world, expectations, beliefs and attitudes.
What prevents us from being happy?
Every person finds happiness in their own. For some, this is a family, work, a long-awaited vacation, financial freedom. If there is a desire to find your happiness, then this is usually associated with finding a way to get away from numerous problems. Change unloved job, change your place of residence, break off boring relationships. Main mistake at the same time - to think that getting rid of another problem will give a much-desired feeling of happiness. Happiness is an internal category, and in order to achieve it, a person wants something around him, outside, not realizing that for complete and final happiness, he first needs to change something in himself.
People know little about themselves. We are interested in all sorts of ways to find our happiness, but at the same time we are not interested in the main way - to try to know and understand the motives of our own behavior, to determine our limiting beliefs and beliefs, to pull out our victim and get rid of her dictates. That is, it is necessary to understand that the sources of all problems are in our heads e and only we are responsible for the fact that they are in us and continue to poison our lives day after day.
How to get rid of problems
After determining the cause, it remains to answer one question: which method is most effective in order to finally get rid of problems. It's about not about temporary measures such as visiting a psychologist, where you can just talk about your problems and then continue to face them in life. Food, alcohol, buying new things, new relationships and connections, a change of scenery - this is also just an excuse to get away from problems for a while, but not solve them.
As already mentioned, all problems are exclusively in our head, namely inside of us. to be quite precise, in our subconscious. The subconscious mind stores all the information, starting from childhood, about everything that we have adopted from our parents, friends, acquaintances or conclusions made on our own, all the origins of our victim complex. That is why the so-called deprogramming of the subconscious acts as the most effective and efficient tool for getting rid of problems, which can not only reveal to you all your complexes, fears, all mental baggage that hinders your development and free life, but also make it possible to forget about these problems , having worked through their sources and deep psychological roots.
One of the tools that can do this is Turbo gopher technique tested on personal experience. An interesting effect of its application is that after some time you will be able to understand that you never had problems as such. It's all about attitude: all problems existed only inside you, and the outside world only reflected your ideas about it. And then maybe you can find your happiness. Good luck!
The information in this article is the result personal experience its author, all articles are written based on their own results of using the system and are not intended to convince anyone of something.
This site is a personal initiative of its author and has nothing to do with the author of the Turbo-Gopher technique Dmitry Leushkin.
You can build happiness on your misfortune - either by trial and error, overcoming great difficulties, or lightly. Marilyn Kerro knows a shortcut that will lead you to well-being.
Harmonious existence with oneself acts as the basis on which the personal happiness of each person is built. In any situation, remember that you are in control of your life. The advice of Marilyn Kerro, who knows the path to happiness, will point you in the right direction. You will find a guideline that will help you overcome all obstacles, overcome difficulties and finally call yourself a happy person.
The path to happiness
Naturally, everyone has their own way to happiness, as well as the very concept of happiness. For each person, happiness is something personal, intimate, unique and inimitable. You can’t follow someone else’s success, just as you can’t turn off your path of fate. The path to your well-being begins within you. Therefore, it is so important to hear your inner voice and follow the call of your heart, noticing all the little things and clues of the Universe.
When we talk about happiness, we imagine that we already have everything: we took all our dreams at once and came true. Yes, personal well-being is unique, but every person wants to have everything they need to live. It is enough even to remember what we annually wish each other for the holidays: it is luck, health, love, joy. Happiness is the general name for all the blessings that one can imagine. And the moment we get everything, we become happy.
You need to listen to yourself. After all, if you remember yourself at ten years old, you can understand: what made us happy then will not do now. And that's okay: happiness grows with us, as do our needs, attitudes and desires. You need to do what you love, meet every morning with a smile, feel the support of loved ones and be yourself. Do not chase someone else's happiness - for each person the Higher powers have prepared their own path.
Try to compare happiness to a mosaic that comes together from different parts and becomes a complete and beautiful picture. This is how the laws of the Universe work. To find the details that will line up in the picture of our happy life, our long-awaited happiness, it is important to accept changes, grow, develop. Remember that the most important victory on the path to happiness is the victory over yourself.
Getting rid of problems in life
To follow your guiding star, you need to understand where our problems come from. Usually it is difficulties and difficulties that tell us that we have gone astray. It is important to learn how to properly understand, accept and get rid of them. Except you, no one else is able to put a spoke in your wheels: even ill-wishers and envious people are powerless if you follow the destiny from Above.
1. Keep it simple. Take everything lightly. Happiness is inextricably linked to our worldview. If you see only failure and defeat in every situation, you need to repress everything. negative emotions. Fear and uncertainty stop your endeavors. Learn to relax, enjoy the little things. How you meet the world is how it will open to you.
2. More joy. Enjoying the little things is an important step on the path to happiness. Enough to appreciate this moment be content with little and dream big. Do not burden yourself with thoughts of past failures and worries about the future. Problems should be solved as they come up, and not created from scratch.
3. Away with doubts. There is nothing worse than doubting yourself. Be brave, determined and determined to win. Each new day brings new opportunities that you can use in unlimited quantities. Believe in yourself: until you believe in your success, no one will believe in it. Affirmations will help you become more confident and cast aside all doubts.
4. Goodwill. What we give to the world, to people, is what we get back. The law of reciprocity is the key to happiness. Create a good atmosphere around you - this will attract to you a sense of harmony and unity with the Higher Forces. Be polite, open and cheerful. Cheer up the people who communicate with you.
5. Avoid conflict. Learn how to maneuver in an argument, achieving victory through diplomacy. Do not impose your opinion on another person, it is useless. Accept and respect the views of other people - this will help you gain a foothold in society and get capricious fortune to help you.
6. Learn from your mistakes. Oddly enough, but learning from the mistakes of others is a completely empty occupation. Each person has his own path to the Olympus of happiness, and workarounds will not work here. You need to draw experience from the past, reevaluate the path traveled, understand what is important and what is secondary. Mistake is your valuable teacher assigned to you by the Universe itself. In moments of defeat, be strong in spirit.
7. Criticize only yourself. Self-criticism is useful, especially if you are in a stalemate. Do not try to throw responsibility on other people, accident or bad luck. If you are at an impasse, the answer lies within you. Take someone else's constructive criticism calmly - it corrects deviations in you, directing you in the right direction.
8. Humor. Any situation that we perceive with humor becomes less painful. Humor helps us find positivity where there might be none. Allow yourself the right to laugh, make fun of your defeats and don't think about what others will think.
9. Weighted decisions. Awkward situations, damaged relationships, lies and slander - all these are the consequences of rash decisions. Do not jump to conclusions based on rumors, gossip, or personal guesses. Try to be objective and rely only on reliable information.
10. The right to make mistakes. Remember one important thing: no one is perfect. Do not demand too much from yourself, do not try to jump above your head and do not reproach yourself for mistakes. It will only make you feel guilty and inferior. You have the right to be wrong, it is in our genetic code. Correct the mistake or draw conclusions, try to understand what this situation wanted to teach you, and continue to move on. Do not accumulate negative memories in yourself - they should be replaced by new, clean and positive ones.
11. Learn to forgive. To be happy, it is important to learn to forgive. But in order to be able to forgive others, you must first forgive yourself. Let go of yourself, let go of the past. Everything in our life consists of trial and error, so get rid of fears and doubts, of everything that prevents you from moving on. You are unable to control the Higher powers and bear responsibility for all your mistakes. In this world, we are only guests who should gain valuable experience - the experience of living a happy life.
Happiness cannot be bought with money and cannot be found in someone else's misfortune. Happiness is first and foremost self-improvement. And there is nothing more difficult than changing yourself. That is why many go astray, looking for affordable and imaginary happiness. Marilyn Kerro is sure that personal well-being can only be found through changes that begin within. We wish you good mood, success,and don't forget to press the buttons and
It happens that in our life begins a "black streak". Everything is not going the way we want. It seems that we are not sitting still, with folded hands, it seems that we are trying to achieve success, but everything is as if in a void, no matter how you spin, but remain in the same place. Without a reason, ailments arise, or even diseases attack. In the family, too, not everything is going smoothly, incomes are falling, quarrels arise from scratch. Suddenly, failures begin to haunt at work and in personal life.
The question arises: What did I do wrong? There is no answer, everything seems to be as always. What then is the reason? And How get rid of problems? There are many reasons, but the most common are the evil eye and spoilage. If you have not harmed anyone so much that a person feels so offended that he turns to a black magician or sorcerer to induce professional damage, then you can correct the situation with simple but effective rituals.
First magical rite.
The ceremony is held in the summer.
First of all, it is necessary to carry out in any acceptable and convenient way for you.
Prepare a branch of rowan tree. Read how to properly cut tree branches for magical rituals.
Then choose a sunny day, the day must be sunny. The phase of the moon does not matter, but it is advisable to choose the day of the week in such a way that your problem would correspond to the governing planetary sign. For example, family, agricultural or health problems are best addressed on Monday - the day of the moon. Problems in business - Thursday, at work and in a career - Sunday, and so on (tab. No.).
Light a fire. Draw a circle with rays around it, approximately, as children draw the sun. Enter the circle, stand in front of the fire so that your face turns to the East. For some time, tune in to the ceremony, listen to the rustling of grasses and leaves of trees, how the sun's rays caress the skin, how the fire crackles, breathe in the aroma of the earth and flowers. Then read the plot:
“I raise my hands to the top (raise your hands). I appeal to the spirits of light: help the spirits of light, help the spirits of summer, help the spirits of the sun, help the spirits of the east! Change my life and the life of my family, bring luck, joy, happiness and love to life! Let it be so!"
Why can't you look back?
There is a belief that the person conducting the ceremony is watched by evil spirits and follows him when he leaves the place of the ritual. No matter what gives these spirits the opportunity to move into a person or follow him and move into his house, leaving the place of the ritual, you can’t look back, and it’s even better to go home along a different road in order to completely confuse the evil entities.
Get rid of problems with the help of magic, the second rite will help:
Second magical rite .
This seemingly simple and childishly ridiculous rite is quite effective in attracting good luck and getting rid of problems. It is held in winter, during the waning moon.
If you are not embarrassed by passers-by, then choose any place for the ritual, the main thing is that there is a tree nearby.
Make three snowballs out of the snow and put them next to you.
Pick up one of the three snowballs and throw it with force at the tree, when the snowball hits the trunk and breaks, say the words:
“I broke the failure, turned it into dust!”
Now take the second snowball and throw it on the ground, so that it will surely crumble if you throw it into a snowdrift and it remains intact - this is wrong. When the snowball breaks, say:
“The enemy has been deprived of strength, witchcraft has stopped!”
Pick up the third snowball and crumble it. Say these words:
“Just as there is no more snow, so there are no more of my problems. My word is strong and stucco. Exactly!"
After the actions taken, you can safely go home or on planned business.
Get rid of problems, another simple way will help.
Third magic rite.
To carry out this ritual, you need to choose a week on the waning moon, pour warm water over seven days. When pouring, say three times:
“Water, water, cast away from me the dark oppression, the devastation of life, so that it doesn’t spoil me, so that it doesn’t twist me, so that it doesn’t break me, doesn’t throw it from side to side. Wash away, water, all the failures, wash off the water, black stripe. Exactly!"
And finally. amulet .
You can protect yourself from troubles caused by someone's envy, resentment or the evil eye using amulets, talismans and amulets. You can make a charm from troubles yourself. To do this, a beautiful, clean walnut needs to be divided and the kernels removed. Fill empty shells with wax from a burning church candle to the brim. Dripping wax, read:
“Lord save, Lord save, save from all evil. Let troubles pass me by, troubles bypass, failures fly by. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen"
The halves are glued together in any way convenient for you. For example, glue "Moment". And since this is a charm, then always carry it with you.
In this post, I explained how get rid of problems with the help of magic.
I wish you good luck and prosperity!
